Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Hey Ladies,
I am currently going through a 2nd and final cycle of IVF with a new RE that I really like. The staff has been great - my husband and I are pretty observant and we have noticed that whenever we or I am waiting to be called back at RE offices, other patients will not look at you or even acknowledge your presence??? Of course, we know that this is a very private and difficult ordeal - we are both introverts especially me, but sometimes it would be nice just to say "hi", as a common admission that we are all going through the same thing! Don't get me wrong - it's not like I'm picturing us all talking and laughing, but it seems like we carry around enough shame and "why me" and it is not our fault, but we are made to feel that way in society. I totally understand but I am also trying very hard to stay positive during this cycle and at the old age of 44, it is a challenge:) I am so glad that I have found this support group in my area of ladies who speak my language and have been there done that and have been succesful and even then, it took me a long time to decide to show my face but it was easier than I thought, since they were strangers. Just thought that I would see if anyone had noticed the same thing???
May all of your baby dreams come true, Ladies!!
I am currently going through a 2nd and final cycle of IVF with a new RE that I really like. The staff has been great - my husband and I are pretty observant and we have noticed that whenever we or I am waiting to be called back at RE offices, other patients will not look at you or even acknowledge your presence??? Of course, we know that this is a very private and difficult ordeal - we are both introverts especially me, but sometimes it would be nice just to say "hi", as a common admission that we are all going through the same thing! Don't get me wrong - it's not like I'm picturing us all talking and laughing, but it seems like we carry around enough shame and "why me" and it is not our fault, but we are made to feel that way in society. I totally understand but I am also trying very hard to stay positive during this cycle and at the old age of 44, it is a challenge:) I am so glad that I have found this support group in my area of ladies who speak my language and have been there done that and have been succesful and even then, it took me a long time to decide to show my face but it was easier than I thought, since they were strangers. Just thought that I would see if anyone had noticed the same thing???
May all of your baby dreams come true, Ladies!!
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I've seen that, too. But mostly people smile...of course, this one woman came in WITH her child (he was beautiful, a toddler) even though my doc has a sign up asking people not to bring their kids in out of respect for the other patients' feelings and she was like "He's a Dr. R. baby, we're hoping for another one but it didn't take and so now we're trying again" I didn't even ask. Thanks for the info! Good advertising for the doc, though. ;-)
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So I went to my first RE appointment yesterday and totally had this discussion in the back on my mind. I tried to smile to people that made eye contact. When we left, the waiting room was full "at least 10" of kids. I found this ironic and kinda funny!
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I see it, but I am the same way. It is something private and not everyone wants to talk about it. Think, if you were sick..like had the flu, and had to go the doctor, sitting in the waiting room there are 5 other people with the flu, would you chat? No! lol. I don't think it is personal I just think that you are a stranger and no one wants to assume anything about your situation.
SharynMarie
I agree with Singsweet. I have had some terrible days in the RE office. Bad news, heartbreak. Sometimes I just want to read a dumb magazine and breathe and try to get my head together so I don't cry when I'm talking to my doctor. Most people in our RE office will smile when someone walks in but then get back to reading or whatever. When my husband is there we whisper and joke around some, but I never felt like talking to anyone else in the waiting room. Who knows what news they are getting or waiting on that day.
YvonneKB
I noticed the same thing at my first RE's office (my 2nd RE never keeps anyone waiting - lol). I did have such long wait times at my first RE's office that I actually became friends with a gal who was going through an IVF cycle the same time I was, that was in November of 2007 and we are still friends. So she was the one exception to all of the quiet ladies in the waiting room. As a side note, neither of our IVFs worked that November, but my friend went on to later have a son who is now 3 and I was finally lucky enough to have my 2 1/2 year old daughter. Good luck to you!
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