I just got off the phone with my MIL and I just mentioned in the conversation (man, am I stupid! I don't seem to learn my lessons!) that I had a doctor appointment in a week and a half. So this is the conversation:
"Why are you in such a hurry?"
"What do you mean, you don't think I should have another baby?"
"No, it's just that a lot of people have them 3 or 4 years apart" (Hello! My daughter turns 3 in October & last I heard, it still takes 9 months).
Then I was telling her that the summer is the only time we can do the treatments, and if we don't do them this summer, we have to wait until next year, and then she said,
"Where's your faith?"
"What do you mean? I have faith."
"You just said you would have to wait another year. How do you know it won't happen without the treatments? God has his own timeframe." I said, "I didn't say I would have to wait a year to get pregnant, I said I would have to wait a year to do more treatments." (She obviously has issues with the treatments--will you guys remind me to not ever say anything to her about them again?)...And then the whole "you need to not get so stressed out about it, and just relax" lecture...(What does she even know? She doesn't know if I'm stressing about it or not, and frankly, I feel like I have a good attitude at this point! Just because she could whip out four kids in a row without blinking an eye and then another one several years down the road). Anyway, I ended up telling her, "It's not like it's only been 6 months and I'm impatient or anything. It has been 2 years. Nothing has happened yet. Then she tried to get compassionate on me, "Yes, and that must be hard when you are longing for it that long." (That is not how it has been. I've been at peace with it. But what is wrong with trying to help it along so my daughter, who I would do anything for, can experience the joy of being a sister?) Then I said, "Well, we have talked about it and this is what we feel like we should be doing." Man, thank you so much for letting me vent!