Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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bb1234 01/05/2014

Greetings Everyone.... I have not been on this site for so long.I had to take a break..I couldn't take anymore disappointments.Now...I am better and more equipped to deal with whatever life throws at me.

I have no children at the moment.

I have convinced my honey to help me buy a fibroid shrinking kit ...which includes a 3 months supply of

fibroid clear, alkagreen, teas, body cleansing kit and etc.

He also admitted to have baby envy....I had no clue that men can worry about being infertile too.

There was a point when I doubted,my ability but now...I am pretty sure...I can do it.

I had my own encounter...I met up to an associate with 2 boys and a new born...she has no job,no money,no staple place to live,no friends,lives on welfare and food stamps,with brand new Iphone 5 ,no family that don't pay attention to her,she has a man with minimum wage- security guard job.

I am just stunned... life is not fair .

kelmelvin 01/05/2014

Life definitely isn't fair. At the school I previously taught at, I saw those situations all the time and it made me feel like crap that I couldn't conceive. I worked with a teacher there that had fibroids. It took her a couple of years to get pregnant with her son, then 4 years to get pregnant with her daughter. I know that is a long time to wait, but it did happen for her. She didn't use any medications for the fibroids. I asked her if she was planning on it when she was waiting to conceive for the second one. Her reply was "I got pregnant with the fibroids the first time, so I will just wait to get pregnant again" Its good for you to be proactive though. Best of luck. I know exactly how you feel!

kelmelvin 01/05/2014

When I said "those situations" I was speaking about the parents that had students at the school. Not the teacher that struggled getting pregnant. Just wanted to clarify.

BundlesofJoy 01/06/2014

I'm not completely sure as to why ur saying life is not fair. Most likely the lady with the kids tht has no job, no money, no friends, no stable place to live on food stamps is MOST LIKELY really stressed out!!

But I made that statement "Life is not fair" when my premature baby coded & went into a coma for 3 months. I thought I did the right things while preggo & someone I knew was on drugs & preggo but her baby was born healthy & is still alive.

Trying4ever 01/12/2014

I see it all the time...and NO life is not fair, but that's what makes it 'life'...

I wonder what it would be like if it were fair...

Hang in there.

bb1234 01/13/2014

Thank You All... for your responses...That's why I love being on Daily Strength...you don't feel so alone and so ......indifferent.

bluemoon23 01/15/2014

I am a full time mom to my husbands daughter and her half sister who lives with us while their biological mom had yet a fourth baby..who was born with THC and opiates in his system..she has no job, pays no child support and barely sees the kids. plus she has an older kid she does not have custody of...and yet I can't even get pregnant! so yes life can be very unfair. I'd like to think their is a bigger reason as to why some people can have children and others cannot.

wewantbabe 01/15/2014

Yes life is unfair! My brother is engaged to someone who just had a baby in August and they are now pregnant. It's really hard to deal with! One day it will all make sense. Until then, hang in there. We are here for you!

deleted_user 01/16/2014

I totally agree with you! Life is not fair! I had to deal with a cousin who got married and his wife got pregnant on their wedding night, a 19 yr old niece who got pregnant, and a 20 yr old cousin, and multiple other women I know all get pregnant or have babies last year. It was a very very depressing time for me. I am trying to think positive this year! Seeing a new fertility doctor this year, and he is going to have us do IVF...now I can be depressed and stressed about the costs and getting the money =( try to keep your head up..what helps me is that even with the 'new crop' of women who get pregnant with the wind changing, there are still lots of women who are going thru exactly what I am going thru, and they understand what I am going thru, and that helps.

bb1234 01/18/2014

Thank You Everyone for your responses

It is such a relief to interact with people that ... can understand..!
The thought.... of not being able to ....have children, did not even come to mind. Too much for me to bare...I would rather.... research and hope for the best.

deleted_user 01/18/2014

I've been there and understand completely. Now, being on the other side of this struggle, I can't describe to you just how precious my little ones are. I have a much greater appreciation for life in general and all of you will too. Also, if we had gotten pregnant when I wanted to, I wouldn't have my son, and I can't imagine my life without him. Hang in there, ladies! The wait is terrible, stressful, excruciating, and exhausting but oh so worth it in the end.

bb1234 01/21/2014

It's nice to see, someone on the other side of this struggle and it gives me ...hope .

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