Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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I want out

Zayannee
Zayannee
I want out of this group so bad, and I dont mean that in a mean way, you all know what I mean.

I am turning to you because you girls are the only people in the world who know how I feel. Who know what this grief really, to know how sick and desperate that I feel.

It just suddenly become too much again. Its too much for me I cant handle all of this.

I just feel like running away from my life. My family friends even my husband.

I want to live in a cabin all alone where it doesnt matter that I cant reproduce where I dont get looks of pity where I dont pity myself where I can just be me and not be " OMG Lindsay cant have babies can you believe it"

Im sick of being that girl. It defines me now and I just can deal right now.

I try to be positive I try to be strong but I just feel used up and weak right now and I just need to connect with one other human being that knows this and while DS is great its not enough right now, I need more.

I feel like the only thing that will ever stop this pain is a baby and I fear I will never have one, its out of my reach.

Im sorry I just need some words of encouragement because I cannot find any myself right now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry you feel this way. I have been there many times and what gets me through it is to watch a nice chick flick or play with my dog or tell my husband that I want to go do something. If you feel like you're getting depressed, you should see a psychologist. I did that for one session and it felt great. send me an e-mail any time you need to talk. God will bring you and DH your blessing. You just have to have faith. Lots of baby dust.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand! You completly read my mind. It is very discouraging, I know. Hope you feel better soon!
Lili
Lili
Reading your post was like reading my journal!! I am at a point where I can't really give you encouragement, but I CAN say that I am right there with you!!! I have been so discouraged and depressed lately....I haven't even felt like being around friends or talking on the phone. Everything seems to be more of a chore than anything right now. All I want to do lately is stay inside my protective shell! It seems like there are babies and pregnant women everywhere, and I can't even be happy about it anymore!! This is one of the worst feeling I have ever had....IF stinks!!

So if you just want to talk to someone who is going through the despair right now as well, please email or message me! I would love someone to cry with too. Hugs to you! We have to keep telling ourselves we WILL get through this!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
first, I am so sorry your feeling this way. Next , i give this advise to a lot of folks. The way I got thru those tough times was to not forget how great my life was when we weren't TTC. DH and I had many "fun" years and wanted to make sure I didn't forget that thru the IF ordeal. Just as I used to, I would look forward to Fri nigh happy hour (our fun night). Trips to the beach, home improvments etc. As difficult as it all is, I still was determined not to let it rule my life. I felt I got all my venting and emotions supported on this site which allowed me to live "normal" the rest of the time.
I really hope this helps you and lots of baby dust to u.