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lina2008 09/30/2008

As some of you are aware by my earlier post, I got a BFN this morning. I was really upset but I though, no this time Im going to pick my self up of the floor and get on with it, so I got ready and went to the gym with my mum. After chatting to her about my disappointment, my mother comes up with this lovely little nugget of wisdom. Well all you have to do is take your tablets and make sure that you have sex at the optimum time. What the fuck does she think I have been doing for the last two years! Playing scrabble!!!!, later, my sister who has two kids starts telling me how I shouldnt have the clomid tablets, that I should get a second opinion from the doctor which SHE has found for me as SHE is sure I have the same problem as her I felt like saying, what problem? stupidity maybe?! Cant you tell that you have TWO kids which she concieved naturally and I cant even get pregnant!? Im telling you girls, this is it for me, I give up, I cant do this any more. Putting up with comments such as these, the pressure of TTC, the tablets, the mechanical sex, the disappointments its all just too much. I cant even have a good cry because DH is home from teaching so I cant just let it all out. I feel sick. I want to go to sleep and never wake up. I hate my self right now.

deleted_user 09/30/2008

I know you are feeling really down right now and it may feel like you want to give up but it WILL get better.

I know some people can be insensitive and it's hard to not let what they say bother you.

Try and take things one day at a time and go have that good cry...you shouldn't hold it all in cause it will just be worse.

Hang in there!

deleted_user 09/30/2008

Hi Lina. I felt the same way last night, ready to throw the towel in. I was even starting to question my sanity!

Sometimes when people haven't walked in your shoes they are in no position to pass comment - and yet they still do! Unfortunatley they can be oblivious to the pain caused even when they think they are helping.

It's so hard sometimes.

Maybe with some time you will feel ready to get back on this crazy ride! Just hold on tight!

deleted_user 09/30/2008

People can be so insensetive sometimes. I hope you feel better soon!

lina2008 09/30/2008

Thanks so much for all your kind words, I really appreciate each and everyone of them

You guys are really all that is keeping me from going insane!

deleted_user 09/30/2008

I am so sorry you are having to put up with all of this. Sometimes people say the stupidest things. Usually they think they are trying to help you, but they really can not understand what it is like to want something that is such an easy and normal thing for most people, just to face disappointment after disappointment, on top of putting up poking, prodding, and crazy hormonal drugs.

I hope that you feel better really soon.

deleted_user 09/30/2008

people can be plain stupid.... did they tell you just to relax to???? good luck to you...... but dont give up on your dream, you just may have to move on to more aggressive if....

theletter12 09/30/2008

My MIL is saying the same stuff...she wants me to go see HER doctor...because HER doctor is so good..Oh come on. Try and do something extra nice for yourself today...buy your favorite ice cream or do something you love to do. I've felt the same way as you and it totally sucks. Take care of yourself...

deleted_user 09/30/2008

I wish none of us had to go through this...it just sucks! Only you know in your heart if it's time for a little break. I know your heartbreak and I am so sorry for it. I hope you can find some peace soon. Hang in there and if you need anything at all, I'm here. Prayers and hugs!!!!!

Ahopper 09/30/2008

I honestly can say I know how you feel. My brother in-law in front of my husband's whole family asked me if we were still "trying" to have a baby, as if we didn't know how to do it. It is incredible how family can tend to be the most hurtful. My heart hurts for you, but it is nice to know that I am not the only person that feels like not waking up sometimes. I will be praying for your heart to heal and that you will have the strength to continue.

Ahopper 09/30/2008

deleted_user 09/30/2008

Oh honey,

I know your feeling badd right now, but don't give up!!!Others don't know how it feels to walk in our shoes.Keep your head up!!I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

deleted_user 09/30/2008

Bless your heart!!! AF came for me 2 days ago so I know the disapointment you are feeling.

This is not going to make you feel better right now, BUT tomorrow is another day and it can only get better from here since it sounds like you have hit bottom.

YOU CAN NOT GIVE UP! Just take it one day at a time and take a break. Have a night out with your DH and do something fun and romantic just the two of you. Maybe that will help you get through the next couple of weeks.

I am so sorry and am Praying for better days for you. Hugs

strength4today 09/30/2008

i'm so sorry hun. go ahead and have a good cry. get it out of your system. damn those insensitive people. i know they're trying to help but i wish sometimes they'd just say "i have no idea what you're going through, but i'm here for you".

hang in there hun!

deleted_user 09/30/2008

I know how you feel, my family and friends have said some really insensitive things along the way as well. You have to remember that they all want whats best for you, they just dont know the right things to say or do. Try to let some of this slide off your back because there will always be people staying stupid things. Try and keep your chin up and dont give up yet. I think you may feel better if you have a good cry and get some of it out. Im always here if you need to talk...good luck to you!

deleted_user 09/30/2008

OMG! Your story sounds so familiar but slightly different because I am going through IVF and my mother said to me once you all just have to keep doing it when you ovulate. and I just starred at her and said mother what do you not understand when I say i have no tubes and I have no choice but IVF. OMG, it's like your family stabbs you were it hurts because they know you more than anyone else but they just don't think when they talk to you. I am so sorry you feel this way and for your negative test, but just know your not alone and your more than welcome to vent with us and let it all out. take care...

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