Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Hello Ladies,
Its been a while since I've had the courage to comment on this site. See on november 1st my husband and I got our BFP after 3 1\2 years! I was so happy I planned the most wondrous way to tell him and in the end I just said it cause after all the pain and stress it was so nice to look him right in the eye and say "I'm pregnant" I was finally making him the daddy that he so desperately wanted to be. I've been seeing an RE and they wanted us to come in check things over. We weren't far enough along for a heartbeat and the baby wasn't even visable. We saw the gestational sac and the yolk. It made DH laugh he teased me about being a chicken. The ul tech gave us our pictures and we went to see the RE. My hcg was super high. Everything looked wonderful. Six weeks along due 7-11-13! I left the clinic and started to bleed. It was so heavy and then the cramping started. We have a 2 hour drive from our clinic to home. We went back told our RE what was happeneing they said to go home, rest and call if it didn't stop. It stopped within a few hours and told RE they seemed confidant that it was just the transvaginal ul that irritated my cervix. That was two days ago....I did my labs again today. My hcg was sliced in half. I lost my baby. I know it happens to so many of you. I just needed to talk. I feel broken today....I'm sure I will feel broken tomorrow. My husband is such a solid calm man and he is being strong for me I can't even imagine how he feels. Its amazing how happy we were just seeing our little 'sac' that he was sure was going to be a girl...sarah...he loves the name sarah. I hate myself today....
Its been a while since I've had the courage to comment on this site. See on november 1st my husband and I got our BFP after 3 1\2 years! I was so happy I planned the most wondrous way to tell him and in the end I just said it cause after all the pain and stress it was so nice to look him right in the eye and say "I'm pregnant" I was finally making him the daddy that he so desperately wanted to be. I've been seeing an RE and they wanted us to come in check things over. We weren't far enough along for a heartbeat and the baby wasn't even visable. We saw the gestational sac and the yolk. It made DH laugh he teased me about being a chicken. The ul tech gave us our pictures and we went to see the RE. My hcg was super high. Everything looked wonderful. Six weeks along due 7-11-13! I left the clinic and started to bleed. It was so heavy and then the cramping started. We have a 2 hour drive from our clinic to home. We went back told our RE what was happeneing they said to go home, rest and call if it didn't stop. It stopped within a few hours and told RE they seemed confidant that it was just the transvaginal ul that irritated my cervix. That was two days ago....I did my labs again today. My hcg was sliced in half. I lost my baby. I know it happens to so many of you. I just needed to talk. I feel broken today....I'm sure I will feel broken tomorrow. My husband is such a solid calm man and he is being strong for me I can't even imagine how he feels. Its amazing how happy we were just seeing our little 'sac' that he was sure was going to be a girl...sarah...he loves the name sarah. I hate myself today....
I know you are disappointed,but this is not your fault. Please don't blame yourself.
My husband and I have been TTC for 4 years. We were finally successful in December of 2011, but I miscarried in February. It was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. I thought that after all the time it took us to conceive, we were in the clear. boy, was I wrong.
Take time to grieve and mourn. I found the following to be helpful: writing a letter to our baby,finishing a scrapbook for the baby, keeping a journal, working with a counselor, attending local support groups, communicating with the women on this website, prayer, attending church and just doing things that made me happy. Supporting others who went through a similar experience helped me to heal.
You are not alone. We are here for you!
I've noticed that women don't respond as frequently to posts in the PCOS and Infertility support group. You may want to copy and paste this post on the main board of the Infertility support group or the miscarriage support group for more responses.
Shawnie is right... it's not your fault, but I know that doesn't always help in the moment. You do need to grieve and take time to express sorrow over your loss. When I lost my baby, the doc said "there's nothing but debris left". Those words have never still hurt to this day. I was only 6 weeks, but that was my child... and still is... and one day, we will be together.
But, you can't allow yourself to get stuck in your grief forever. Your husband is strong for you, but chances are, he needs comfort too. Focus on loving each other right now and helping each other through it, and then look to the future. My prayers are with you.