Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Ok so I know I have just started trying to find out what is causing my infertility, but I feel like I am going crazy. I have been looking on the internet on options. How much treatment cost and adoption. I am feeling really down right now. Treatments cost so much. I emailed an adoption agency to get more information in case that is an option my DH and I decide to take. They called me today asking questions. I told them I just needed information. They told me they would call Friday to talk to me and my husband about adoption. My mom called today and I told her about it. She thinks I am jumping ahead of myself. She thinks I should just be patient and wait before I look in to adoption. I feel like my DH feels the same way but he just keeps saying whatever I want to do. I am a planed oriented person. All I want to do is find out information. Does anyone feel the way I do??? Should I just wait and see what happens sense it is early in my trying to find out what is wrong with me??? Need some advice please.
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Knowledge is power. I felt so much better just knowing we were being proactive. My mom had the same response as yours. But I didn't care. at the beginning DH wasn't onboard, but he saw how much I wanted this and has been much more supportive. Good luck with everything.
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How long have you been TTC? I think it is good to be educated on all treatments and options, and seeking information doesn't necessarily mean you are locked in. IF treatments are very expensive, esp. if your insurance doesn't help much (like mine doesn't pay 1 penny), but I have heard that adoption is also very expensive. So then of course you could try to have your own baby and spend thousands of dollars, and it might not work, then you could fork out some thousands more to adopt... or you could choose to adopt and bypass the IF guessing game. This is something I struggle with, too-- not knowing what to do. How important is it for you to try to have your own baby? I would suggest sitting down w/the hubby and laying out some limits. How far would you go w/your treatments, how much money are you willing to spend, and for how long will you try to have your own baby. After my husband and I did this, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted.
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I was always the kind of person to just go with the flow... Buy after 6 month of ttc I started to get stresses.... And now all I want to know is when or if it is going to happen.... Looked up adoption but it's to expensive for us... And without knowing what's wrong we don't know what treatments lie ahead... I just what to know whats wrong... Every time I get online is says with my age and everything with out something really being wrong there is no reason why we can't conceive.... Just can't handle not knowing... I want a baby and I don't want to wait any more... I want answers and I want them now... Grr this is so stressful...
SharynMarie
It makes sense to consider your options, and unfortunately both adoption and infertility treatment can be long and expensive. Like Cimmaron and Plan4Baby said--a consult with an adoption agency will give you food for thought and you aren't obligated to make any decisions until you are both ready. Good for you contacting them. I was too scared to even do that!
deleted_user
I feel your pain. I am also a planner and it's hard when you don't have control over such a huge part of your life. I would be careful not to jump into anything though. I think it's OK to have all the info. so you know what your options are, but i'd give this a lot of thought. I've always REALLY wanted to experience pregnancy and wanted to have a baby of my own. But if you don't have those strong feelings then maybe adoption would be a good choice for you. However, if you just started looking into infertility you might want to give it some time. You could have a problem that is very easy to fix. Sometimes all it takes is an inexpensive prescription.
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Thanks everyone. Your comments makes me feel better.
deleted_user
I know just how you feel, when i discovered that i was having problems with my fertility i too tried to look at all my options and i found it a bloody nightmare also. Its so hard to get infomation and the internet can be a hinderence rather than a help as a lot of info can be wrong depending on where you live, But if this helps you then i say stick with it and just make yourself clear to all those you are looking info of that its only the info you need at the moment (you will find you have to repeat youself often). Try to stay strong xxx
Bell101
I have recently started to look into adoption as well... There is no pressure to adopt you are just looking into it. I have looked into a lot of things over the years that I have not done. Research is good for me and it helps me deal with my situation.
deleted_user
I am also a planner . Its helps me deal with the situation.I have also researched alot on adoption and infertility treatments. Its helps me to know what I might have to go thought that way I have time to cope.Plus at least knowing different things I might have to go though helps me have some control. Since U have no control over if. Good luck!
deleted_user
I feel the same way and it is sooo hard to get real info out of people over the phone when it comes to IF treatments and Adoption. They all want your name to sign you up for a seminar when all you have is like one or two questions about something.
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