Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I am freaking out right now I am crying hysterically and rolling in and out of flashbacks
My biological father who raped me, and my whole family knows, and NO ONE WANTS TO DEAL WITH IT. HE RAPED ME FOR YEARS AND BEAT ME AND THREATENED TO KILL ME EVERY DAY I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO DIE. WHO WOULD DO THAT TO A FOUR FIVE SIX SEVEN EIGHT year old
Thought I would look at my sisters facebook page because we have been distant. On her top friends is my uncle on my "fathers" side who i havnt met as an adult, My sister told me he doesnt talk to my biological dad. I clicked on his page and his friend top popped up that PIECE OF SHIT
I couldnt help it I CLICKED and his HAPPY PHOTOS with his new wife I WANT TO VOMIT. HOW CAN SUCH A MONSTER LIVE OUT IN THE WORLD AND NO ONE NO
I CANT TAKE IT FUCK MY WHOLE FAMILY I HOPE THEY ROT IN HELL
he is out there taking SMILING PICTURES on a YACHT with 20 people "liking" it with that disgusting woman who helped him lie and sneak me around.
I AM LOSING MY MIND OVER THIS. I want to take his ass to court. I want him to rot in jail forever. I want him to fucking die.
I WAKE UP EVERY DAY TO A LIVING HELL TO PAIN INSIDE ME IT NEVER GOES AWAY AND HE IS JUST LIVING HIS LIFE LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED
HOW CAN SOMETHING THIS HORRIBLE BE REAL
My biological father who raped me, and my whole family knows, and NO ONE WANTS TO DEAL WITH IT. HE RAPED ME FOR YEARS AND BEAT ME AND THREATENED TO KILL ME EVERY DAY I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO DIE. WHO WOULD DO THAT TO A FOUR FIVE SIX SEVEN EIGHT year old
Thought I would look at my sisters facebook page because we have been distant. On her top friends is my uncle on my "fathers" side who i havnt met as an adult, My sister told me he doesnt talk to my biological dad. I clicked on his page and his friend top popped up that PIECE OF SHIT
I couldnt help it I CLICKED and his HAPPY PHOTOS with his new wife I WANT TO VOMIT. HOW CAN SUCH A MONSTER LIVE OUT IN THE WORLD AND NO ONE NO
I CANT TAKE IT FUCK MY WHOLE FAMILY I HOPE THEY ROT IN HELL
he is out there taking SMILING PICTURES on a YACHT with 20 people "liking" it with that disgusting woman who helped him lie and sneak me around.
I AM LOSING MY MIND OVER THIS. I want to take his ass to court. I want him to rot in jail forever. I want him to fucking die.
I WAKE UP EVERY DAY TO A LIVING HELL TO PAIN INSIDE ME IT NEVER GOES AWAY AND HE IS JUST LIVING HIS LIFE LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED
HOW CAN SOMETHING THIS HORRIBLE BE REAL
Your anger is good - let it roll.
I called a child abuse firm and left a message with a specific lawyer today who is supposed to consult me on my case. It was really hard to leave that message and I started bawling when I got off the phone.
I don't think the rest of my family will support this but I DONT CARE Ive been trying to get them to deal FOR YEARS and NOTHING has happened. SO FUCK THEM. LETS RIP THIS FAMILY APART. BRING IT ON.
I was yelling in my head at those photos I AM COMING FOR YOU MOTHERFUCKER. I AM GOING TO RIP YOUR LIFE APART
I don't care if the court case fails I want to make this SO PUBLIC
If I lose I will FLIER HIS HOME AND HIS WORK AND EVERYWHERE HE GOES. It is across the country but I will fucking FLY there and make sure that EVERYONE hears what he did to me.
This is my breaking point.
lots of courage and strength to you
Your post bring tears to my eyes.I was crying yesterday histerycally too..............My family just discareded me and did not even hear me....I sacred for my future........And i felt just like you do...I am OUTRAGED...How can they got away with it??!!!!!!!!!!! its just mind boggling....
I feel JUST LIKE YOU.
How can they never pay??!!! How can one ever get closure??? when there will be NO justice???!!!
ITs the hardest thing to do.
THE HARDEST.
If i had money i'd spend whatever it cost to bring some kind of justice innsme kind of way...
YOu can do something depending on how many years have passed and your case............Sometime you can do civil law suit...GOOD FOR YOU!
If i had the money i'd do it! I have inquire with attorneys and some have stated it could be done.
I hear your frustration and hurt. My family like yours just wants to be in denial...
They are excellent con men. If you can get the Oprah show where she interviews men who are in jail and in therapy it is clear. It might open your family's eyes.
You deserve so much more than your family is giving you...denial is bunch of bull muck and it hurts so deeply.
You can and will reach place where it is not so hurtful...if you have decent counselor working with you. Plus trying to recall the book and work book out there about this issue...it really helps you come to terms with all the feelings as confusing as they can be.
my heart is with you
This finally gives me the financial freedom to DO THIS. I AM TAKING HIM TO COURT.
It happened in Virginia, where the statue is 5 years, but it is arguable, and I live in oregon, where one of the best child abuse prosecution firms in the country is, I guess they did a lot of work prosecuting the boy scouts and the catholic church. I am just going to see how the consultation goes.
At this point I don't care if I don't have a chance in court I just want to SERVE HIM SOME PAPERS. I want to SHOW MY FAMILY its NOT OK. I want to tell EVERYONE in his life what he did, whether they or the courts believe it or not.
I spent today with two good friends and told them about what happened. the most I have ever opened up to them.... This is a whole new world for me.
I am so hurt and angry and sad it is excrutiating I go in and out of hysterics. But somehow I have finally hit my limit and it is almost a relief, I feel free of fear of judgement or failure. ALL I KNOW IS THAT FUCKER IS GOING TO PAY
III. Time Considerations.
A. Statutes of Limitation (Va. Code Ann. 19.28) (BACIGAL at 149).
With the exception of marital rape, Va. Code Ann. 18.261 and marital sexual assault, Va. Code Ann.
18.267.2:1, there is no statute of limitations on felony charges in Virginia. Further, Va. Code Ann.
19.28 places a one year limitation on the prosecution of most misdemeanor charges; misdemeanors
related to child abuse fall under this limitation.
I asked a lawyer and in some cases the statue does not apply.............Also in some cases you can file a civil law suit........Good for you again!
I hope you continue to vent on here and have support for those times when you're feeling out of control, it's a scary place to be but that anger needs to come out. I went through a period of obssessing about finding my abuser and gutting him like a fish, I couldn't think about anything else.
I've always been a firm believer that the real problem is not the abuse or the abuser; the real problem is that the abusers are protected and shielded from us the survivors. The real torture is seeing people around the abuser "standing for him" and furthering victimizing us.
When I look at the Penn State thing, there's no way that that Sandusky guy could get away with abusing so many boys for so long without the support of the entire university administration. No one spoke up. No one said a thing.
We know your pain and anger, and you're right on wanting to kill him; you're wrong on actually carrying it through.
In my case my dad believes that everything has been magically erased because he's a man of god now. I feel like shoving his bible up his ass.