I knew someone once - as we got to know each other it came out that her husband had abused her daughter (his step-daughter). She had reported it and he had done time and had therapy - and then she went back to him.

When I got to know her, her daughter was in her 30's and having been on drugs was trying to make a go of her life. She was at Uni and doing well until a breakdown.

During the breakdown she told her 11 yr old son why and said she wanted no more contact with her mother. Social services had already banned contact between the step-father and her son.

My heart bled for this woman, whose mother blamed her for causing problems, for not getting over it, for having told her son and stopped him visiting her and her husband. She also stirred things with this girls siblings - making them blame her too. She just could not or would not see how hurt her daughter was, she could not see what a betrayal the daughter must have felt to see her mother go back to the man who had abused her. The mother was desperately looking for someone to say what she had done was OK.

We haven't had contact after it became clear that I was not going to do that - and I wanted no more contact with someone who could behave like that.

They are sad, sick people who are toxic for survivors.

I wanted to post my opinion on that page but I new it was toxic. I'm better of sharing how I feel with the people in here. It's horrible to see the denial on that page!

What a bunch of in denial sad cases. Anyways you were very brave ! Kudos to you ! I'm with you 1000%

Yanno, I have other hangouts online...and the one time I found a questionable post with pictures I reported it.

Oh, and while I cannot vouch for the offender registries of other states...
http://www.wired.com/culture/lifestyle/commentary/sexdrive/2007/04/sexdrive_0420
According to this author, and at least in California, you can basically do just about anything, anywhere, to a consenting adult, and not end up on the sex offense registry.

Hi all

I feel so touched by all your comments and also a sense of massive relief. I have been threating about it ever since. I was so sure that I must have completely been out of line.
I certainly do not feel alone now and really appreciate your thoughts and empowering words.
Its nice to be here.
Honestly there are some groups on here that really get to me. From now on I think I will just stay where I am or just ensure that I do not comment.
Big hugs to you all.
warm regards xxx

I read the post also. You did nothing wrong..these people are nuts. the phrase' he's just a So" aaugh I'm speechless. Jerks. Once again Vicky you did nothing wrong, they sure did by savaging you like that...phoey on them. (I'm being really polite)
hugs to you

OMG i'm gonna puke....You did nothing wrong.
It doesn't matter if it was not her daughter he abused.
The guy is a sex offender who in their right mind want to stay and support such a creep??

If they are not allowing him to be near that girl for whatever reason is because the creep is dangerous.

i very badly want to tear into them in that group for being brainless morons, but its not worth it

Me too.But i know where that's going.
idiots.

I could not even read that garbage they were writing. Sounds like the same dumb excuses my Mom comes up with to protect my Dad. I feel so sorry for the poor children that they are not protecting. you did nothing wrong, they are idiots. Hats off to you Vicky.

followed that link and read all those crass comments by morons who really shld know better, vicky my love you did nothing wrong and i applaud you for having the courage to say your bit and hold your own...well done girl!!!

love Manda xx

you can contact rainn.org for calling when you are in crisis or 211 for other resourcces too

Yeoux thank you for trying to help.... This post is from 2012 and the OP is no longer on the site so I will close this.... Big hug....xo