Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group
Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.
From a previous post I stated that my BF was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure (after going to the ER for other issues) about 6 weeks ago. He is on medication now along with lifestyle changes. However, since he left the hospital he has not had an erection, not even when he wakes up in the morning. We went away for the weekend and I thought just maybe... nothing though. We slept naked together (and close) which was the first time since the hospital. Still nothing. We had an extremely active sex life before all of this happened. I feel so selfish for not feeling desirable and making it about me an my needs. I feel like he should at least want to fool around with me. I am having a hard time getting my head around all of this. It does not even seem like he is interested anymore. I have tried to talk to him about it but he gets defensive and says I am making him feel bad because he can't "perform". I don't know what to do. His health is the most important thing to me. I am just at a loss.
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First things first, ask his doctor if and when it will be safe for him. CHF can be very dangerous as you probable know. He may have a fear of causing a cardiac episode if he allows himself to get too aroused. Secondly it my be the meds he is on lowering his libido as well as causing possible impotency problems. If it is only the meds and the MD says it is safe for him, talk to him about using both pumps and penis rings. Many people including myself have had decent results using them. The one thing he has to remember is to not shut down. I cannot have penetrating sex with my wife of 21 plus years but I refuse to allow this disorder to keep me from touching her in all of the many different ways that bring her pleasure ad let her know that I love her. Dont give up, we ar with you both.
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