Cinlou,

Believe me when I tell you this, it is not you. I suffer from the same thing that your boyfriend does and it is not easy to deal with. You feel like you are less than a man because you can't function and after it happens a few times your mind really messes with you. So not only do you have the physical problem going on it then turns into a psychologlical one as well.

My soon-to-be-ex wife never understood nor comprehended the seriousness of my malady which is part of what caused her to cheat (that and she's just a serial cheater). She has a very low self esteem even though she is drop dead gorgeous and she always thought it was about her. It isn't. So don't twaek your bean about it.

If this is a relationship that you want for the long haul be ready for the fact that his ED might never go away or could even get worse. Try to be supportive and understanding. Do some research on the subject. There are other ways of being intimate without having sex. Has he tried pills or injections? Maybe this is something you two could tackle together. Be patient with him though, speaking from experience this is not an easy subject for men to talk about. You don't want to cause him any more anxiety than he is already eXperiencing. Hang in there.

WSH

Thank you WSH for you kind reply....I won't "tweek my bean" now that was so very cute and never heard that before. You have made me laugh and made my day! I shall take your advice and do research on ED.....yes it may be the long haul, we shall see...anxiety yes that is a big issue...for both.
The world must be full of cheaters. My ex and I were married for 18 years and then found out he was a bad boy and that was it. Also, he had a drinking problem. He never had ED, not even from the alcohol. But, who wants to sleep with a wiskey drinking, tobacco chewin' stinky drunk!? Not a turn on for sure. He should have the ED he deserves it not my sweet boyfriend... Life is not fair is it? Thanks again..
Cinlou

I am glad you have found a place that you are happy with to talk and seek support. Hopefully this site does manage to help you when you need to air things or just gain that little extra advice.

Always keep in mind that your partners erectile dysfunction has no bases upon yourself in any way possible, and that sticking together no matter how tough it may feel is worth the relationship you have described. Just wish that I had the strength this time last year. Remain open with each other and wish you both luck with your journey.

Thanks for your reply Baily86.....I look forward to have many online friends at this site that can be my strength in times to come, in the good and bad times. With people like you I am sure I will get through all of this. Thank you for the time to answer my post.
Have a wonderful day....and a safe July 4th.
Cindy

When I hit 40 I started having problems which viagra corrected but a few years later viagra wasn't working well at all. Through this site I learned that my T level was probably too low.

Doctors are hesitant to prescribe testosterone because it is often abused by athletes and is a controlled medication. I did my research and went to my doctor with a mountain of information I downloaded from the internet. and told my doc I wanted to try androgel for 30 days and to make a long story short, problem solved!

ED gone, depression gone, chronic low back pain gone! I feel like I did when I was 18!

Don't let your doc tell you your T levels are normal, be prepared. Doctors dont keep up with the latest info on the subject and what use to be low normal T level is now considered too low!

Good Luck and TC

You might suggest he see a doc. My ED started at about 50 pretty much they way you described his ED. I usually performed well enough, but not always, and was very glad when Viagra was released to the public. That gave me a few more years but even that stopped helpimg much after 70. A little viagra may be all he needs to jump start himelf again.

SO viagra worked well for 20 years..that sounds good to me!.. I hope you can find another product that will work for you. This is good news though that these products can work so well. Thanks

P.S. I am feeling optmistic about these products but it certainly is a condition my partner and I would find a way to get around one way or the other. It is no ones fault and just something couples may or may not have to deal with at some point in a relationship. How do you live without sex...you cant. Find a way...

Hi everyone,

I've just joined this group and want to ask - have you been to the doctor to check there's nothing else that you need to take care of - a physical issue, for example?

Rarely (but it's worth checking) ED can be a symptom of something else that needs your immediate attention.

Once you've crossed everything else off your list, you can be sure of exactly what it is you're dealing with.

Oh and by the way... ED happens to every man at some point in his life. Doctors are very familiar with people feeling a bit self-conscious and embarrassed, but they won't bat an eyelid - it's so normal. You'll feel so much better when you know for sure.

Don't be afraid to go and get checked.

You are right, there are a lot of people having problem with ED. But also there are decisions, especially for such a lovely pairs, as yours. For example you can find an effective remedy for your partner. Nobody can say what medicament will be helpfull in your case. I had some experiments on myself before stumbled upon montfordpharmacy.com and discovered Cialis. But it's my own story, so don't be afraid to make happy end in your own, and also don't forget to visit doctor!

Your boyfriend's ED problem is common in almost every men nowadays. You are not helping him, just by criticizing him and pressuring him to get and stay hard. You should be working with him to help you to overcome him ED (erectile Dysfunction) problem.