Healthy Sex Support Group
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hi, I am new here. Need some advice regarding my sex life with my wife.
We have been married for 8 years. We have 2 children. the younger one was born 3 years ago.
the problem is, my wife only likes sex during her fertile time which is 12 days after her period, and it would last about 2-3 days. So i now mark those days on the calendar as they are precious time.
We sometimes have sex on other days but it seems like she is doing me a favor. And that upsets me sometimes, so i recently prefer to masturbate outside her fertility time.
Is it ok to just have sex with wife twice a month? She never asks for sex, and don't like to talk about it, so it's hard to know when she wants it. I found out about the fertility thing through research on the internet.
I have told her that i am sex ready 24/7, even after working out in the gym or after work, or in the middle of night. But that strategy didn't work either, she still wouldn't ask for sex
Is it normal for women to have very low sex drive? Because in the past i have met hornier women.
I have been faithful for 8 years. But worry that the lack of sex can make it hard for me in the future.
What should i do? Please advice
thank you
We have been married for 8 years. We have 2 children. the younger one was born 3 years ago.
the problem is, my wife only likes sex during her fertile time which is 12 days after her period, and it would last about 2-3 days. So i now mark those days on the calendar as they are precious time.
We sometimes have sex on other days but it seems like she is doing me a favor. And that upsets me sometimes, so i recently prefer to masturbate outside her fertility time.
Is it ok to just have sex with wife twice a month? She never asks for sex, and don't like to talk about it, so it's hard to know when she wants it. I found out about the fertility thing through research on the internet.
I have told her that i am sex ready 24/7, even after working out in the gym or after work, or in the middle of night. But that strategy didn't work either, she still wouldn't ask for sex
Is it normal for women to have very low sex drive? Because in the past i have met hornier women.
I have been faithful for 8 years. But worry that the lack of sex can make it hard for me in the future.
What should i do? Please advice
thank you
We don't have kids yet, but have gone through some tough shit in the last 3 years that's really lowered my inner attraction towards him. I would love to be having sex, trying new things etc, but I am struggling with my attraction to him and I think this scar tissue and space we had between us (could be kids in your case) serve as hurdles.
I got a vibrator with a bunch of girlfriends years and years ago. I left in the package in a drawer for years. Then, one day in desperation (I think he had gained a bunch of weight and we were going through a really hard time) and gave it a try. I guess I was prudish years ago, but I love my vibrator. I don't use it really often, but it helps me know more about my body. I wouldn't rule getting one of these for her out. It can be fun together too. I think the more I do it, the more I want it.
Also, talking about it, watching a sexual movie or something to get her aroused down there. Maybe touch works for her, something visual or situational helps me. Maybe she's bored of the same routine? That's a biggy for me...
Do you have any suggestions for me? I know it helps when we are both fairly fit and not "feeling fat", choosing a time where I am not completely stressed out, it still isn't really enough.
Good luck. Oh hey, if nothing else, take her on a beach vacation without the kids, have some drinks, get hot oil massages and then see what happens... : )