thank you for the responses.

Yes she has mentioned about being tired. So it could be a factor too. I have tried to reduce the workload. I put our younger child into daycare in the morning, I cook sometimes too.

We are both 31 years old now.

Another thing is, i am going to move overseas and retire in a few months time. Would be full time investor. I would have plenty of free time, and would like more than twice a month of good sex.

I would be the full time cook, do laundry, clean the house, do the grocery shopping. But not good at handling kids.

Will the retirement and extra help be helpful for my wife's sex drive? Or will our sex life be worse as i would be wanting more with the extra energy from not working, and she might stay with the twice a month thing?

thanks

Fastmatt=is all you want from me sex? I'm more than a piece of meat!"

Ur wife may feel like that. Foreplay man! The way to her genitals is thru her heart. Women need love for sex. Men need sex for love. She may want too but just doesn't know it. Women are crockpots, we warm up slowely. Give her more kisses on the cheek and hugs without copping a feel. Do things without being told. Tell her she looks pretty and other compliments. Buy her a babysitter. Offer date night. Be nice to the girl. Buy her things that generally only get bought when you have to like Valentines day. Do something for her and expect nothing in return. Perform a task she's been wanting you to do for a long time. Tell her you love her and she's special. Do it consistantly so she knows ur not up to something. Find out what her love language is, she will be most receptive to those type of things. Is she pissed? Resentful, hurt. Oops Bro, you just closed off her heart. When you do have sex, are you making sure she is pleasured first? Or are you wamm bamming her. "here baby suck this" Do something in bed more that you know she really enjoys. Wait on her. You get up and go get it. Hello, do you give the kids a bath? It may be worth ur time if you know what I mean.

Now those are some fantastic ideas. Do it, before you resort to laziness and do something retarded for the ez way out.

This has been going on for few years, not sure when it started as she never asked for sex, I just found out recently that sex outside those 2-3 ovulation days are just doing me favors.

Forgot to mention. There is some stress factor starting about 4 years ago, as i argue alot with extended families. So no more extended families when we move

Like I said something to flip from mommy to wife. I don't know what you guys are into but candles and lingerie, or a bath and a glass of wine something to flip from caregiver to wife. I suggest strongly you talk to her and find out what she needs. Communication however awkward is needed.

The kids thing gets better as they get older too. Yeah stress could have a lot to do with it. Offer a massage with no expectations. Basically a lot of what mizprizz said.

just bend over and take it..

Amen Mizz Prizz! Preach your message of love to the world! Put it on the top of the list for what men need to know about sex!

Is this for real?
How would we know what would help your wife.. For all we know, she's not into you anymore.

What do you do that you can retire at 31? It might depend where you are going to retire to tell if she would want sex more or less.. Maybe you can look it up online.. It might tell you if people have lots of sex in that area
Got nothing else for you

So it's like reduce the mommy duties, and then she becomes more wify?

I am not into wamm bamming thing, because i feel satisfied when wife like it, so that is why i don't like "do me a favor" sex outside ovulation period.

I give massage sometimes, but i usually get turned on while massaging, so cannot massage for too long.

thanks for the responses once again

I lookep up, people in France have more sex.

Does wine make women more in the mood?

Wine can put women in the mood. It relaxes them. But make sure if your wife is going to drink wine that she is not already tired because that could relax her to the point where she falls asleep. And then you will be right back where you started.

Or wine can turn them into nasty drunks.. Or maybe it can turn them into getting sex elsewhere.

And then you'll be playing Play Station like Viper.

I know you! You seemed to have lost 2 kids again, just like you did with some other names...

Tell me, do you keep a spreadsheet on all your info or do you wing it with each post?

You said she never initiates sex and won't talk about sex and if she won't talk about it, it'll be very difficult to solve any problems.

Whether it's normal for her to have a low libido, it could be she's just a low libido woman and her libido is normal for her. A high or low libido has nothing to do with gender, it's about that individual. There are women with high libidos, women with low libidos, same as for men, some men have high libidos, some have low libidos.

As for wine, that depends on the individual and how alcohol affects that person. I have a very high libido and I don't drink wine or any kind of alcohol, haven't had a drink in years. When I did drink alcohol (even if only one or two drinks), it dulled my sexual senses, inhibited orgasms and made me tired, not horny.