BrokenEye!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dude. how are you. I've missed you

I'm good thanks and still off the cigs, nearly 5 years now, and the original reason I came on DS in the first place (Suspected MS) has also disappeared, YAY:)

Your brain- its powerful. Maybe subconsciously you are thinking that you will never meet someone, so you have no luck. Kinda like a "placebo effect" (our brains).

it is so true.. guys don't like unsecured women.... it is hard to figure out guys but it is funny because some of them think same way ... hard to figure out women they might say...so because of fear of being rejection by beautiful women some of them end up raping them to make sure they get to have4 sex with their favorite women either she is ok with it or no...I am not saying all guys have fear of being rejected but main reason I don't wear short skirts is because I don't want to run into those rapists... now about positive things: yes I came here because I would like to have healthy sex with a man but with a gentle guy not with a violent/rapist, alcoholic, mentaly il or drug addict guy ...by the way alcoholics and drug addicts don't even want to have normal sex... they just look at porns and masturbate all day.. ..how do I know all that? I am married with one of those guys... planning to leave him of course...got to find a room mate in alanon first to share financial burden with...

I'm a man I look at any woman that's nice polite. Sounds like you got all of that. baggy clothes are a turn on for most men..

Mary, could guys be seeing you as needy or desperate?
Reading over your posts it seems like you are overly concerned about rings and clothes.
You say you know your personality, but maybe it is coming off differently to guys who are around you.

When a guy walks into the room do you immediately look at them and think - he could be the one? If so, maybe they sense that.
I don't know else to say.

I usually wait for the guy to speak that is most of the time. I'm not clingy either. There are several men I know as friends or acquaintances. I may say Hi first or How are you doing?
NO, I don't think of every man as a catch or possible. I know one right now who would take me but I keep him at arms length. That "other" one and I exchange emails and sometimes they are sexy ones. He has also told me he has no problems getting women when he wants them. He does have an ego but he also told me he needs Viagra to get it up.

All men have different tastes in women some like bigger women some like thinner women some like bigger busted women some like smaller women sorry to say beauty is in the eye of the be-holder weather or not you live with your mother has NOTHING to do with it.

I don't recommend meeting a boyfriend at work. There's an old saying, "Don't find your honey, where you make your money. 'Cause of the shit goes bad, you have to see them every damn day!"

If you have hobbies or things you like to do, try to see if there are any meet-ups around your area. (hiking, biking, nature walks, book clubs, wine tasting clubs). Find someone that shares common interests, start out as just friends, and see how things go from there.

I met my husband at work. I wanted nothing to do with him.. I had gotten married at 19 and was going through a divorce at 22. My husband's work department moved into the building I was in.
He was going through a divorce at the time with 2 young kids..

Fast forward 33 years... We started dating .. Dated for 2 1/2 years and we've been married for 30 years.

so.. sometimes it works out when you date someone you work with. Even though I didn't really work WITH him.. so maybe that doesn't count... :0)