It is hard to meet the right guy. I don't know what kind of work you do, but clothes could help your confidence. You could wear a form fitting red blazer, for example. You could go to a spa or salon for advice about what clothes and hairstyles would flatter you. Try to figure out what shape you have and how to flatter it. Don't be afraid to be flirty!

Don't get down on yourself and definatly don't think all men are the same. Some men find women attractive that other men would not. Don't focus so much on what you can do to attract a man and focus more on your self confidence and what you really want and look for in a man.

I guess what I am trying to say is be yourself ! So many people get caught up in faking it to attract a specific type of person that they either loose themselves and become miserable or revert back to old ways and get left behind, because they were not real or truthful in a relationship. Life is to short to short to waste on being miserable.

Best of luck !

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GREAT answers ppl !..
Even in my early 40's older ppl were tryin to tell me to cut my long hair
it was halfway down my back. 'You're a guy you're not supposed to have long hair!! I'd say Jesus did you never knocked him you worship him.lol.
But Women loved that long hair & the guy in it & they really wish they had hair like mine.lol..
My point is.. the same as others ,, Be yourself.. dress how you're comfortable, wear your make how u like if u wear it.
(some women would be fine or look better without) ..

My wife of 11 yrs now & I found eachother When we quit looking for someone. Just enjoy yourself love & like yourself first & Then He shall come along...

Also I've known plenty of ppl who've lived with Mom & Dad who've gotten dates/married from any age...
Also ppl who've lived in homeless shelters who've found mates.
It's not where you live, it's how you feel about you !

I have confidence in myself. The jobs I've had in the past were mostly in the public---I'm not shy. I guess I do flirt too but that is just me. I've got a friendly nature.
With the bending and putting things on shelves, I need easy to wear clothes. My job is great but not glamorous. I work in a second hand store and love it.
Today Mr NO Fat Chicks was really friendly and encouraging me to "model" a sexy outfit. Of course, with nothing under it. He confuses me.
I'm not really focusing only on him. I do look at other guys if I know they are single. But he is the one who teases me.

sounds like bully....avoid the prick...

Sometimes when you stop looking or caring that you need someone, that one person comes into your life.

Stop worrying about finding someone and don't let the no fat chicks loser make you look foolish. Stop flirting with him. He is not worth it in any way.
I think he is teasing you and not in a good flirty way.

I hear you babe!
I can' t seem to find a guy either.
And people always tell me I am pretty and funny...etc.....
Where are the men?

From my perspective and what little we know about you, it is hard to say why you are still single - maybe because you WANT to meet someone so much? Maybe a little less focus on that and more on finding a hobby or interest to fill your time?

I made a conscious decision, after lots of terrible/awful/mismatched dates that I am totally okay if I never meet someone. I have to be. What else can I do? Neither of us, you or I or OTM has any control over who will come into our lives or who won't.

You can be fat/thin, tall/short, big/small boobed, shaply/no shape, blonde/brunette/red/gray hair.... I don't think it matters. Men love women, women love men. You know when you know.

As others have said, just be happy and confident. Everyone is attracted to that.

Are you only looking to meet men where you work? Do you ever go to Happy Hour or some social situation where the mood is more relaxed and you're more apt to meet men in a social rather than a customer service capacity?

I used to go to social events like music programs. A friend met a nice guy there and they became a couple till he died. When she talked me into going, no unattached men showed up. Several times I went with her and nothing. We went out other places and nothing. I went to church for years where there were unattached men and one sat in front of me. Nothing. I contacted a widower who was looking. He dumped me in email. Wouldn't even ask me for coffee.
I've always been approachable but seem to be left out. The only ones who seem the least bit interested in the past were married. Not going there!

I've known extremely beautiful women who had trouble getting dates
b/c guys thought they were taken or the guys were too shy to talk to beautiful ladies Or the guys thinking they weren't good enough to go for someone like them.

Aren't Bill & Koolman single ? come on guys ... get some Pringles n mingle ...LOL

@cowboy!! LOL!!!! Get some pringles and mingle! Love it!

I had when I was in school a boy who would gaze at me. I would glance at him and he would look away quickly. He never said a word. He died rather young but his aunt told me he had a crush on me and thought my hair was pretty--I had long hair. I told her he should have said something, I would have been friendly.
I know I look ok, I don't startle anyone. Just wish I didn't have to make all the moves! If it would lead to something, I'd like it better.
Here it is Saturday night and guess where I am!!!!