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apologies if this is TMI but I just don't get it, what is going through his head?!!!
Let me explain
So there we are getting warmed up, my Husband is teasing me and touching meall good, then things progress, he goes down on me for quite a while, enters me.
then immediately pulls out abruptly saying ' oh yeh I forgot you wanted to go and do something today didn't you, don't have time for this then eh.' walks off and gets in the shower.
I was shocked, speechless, let alone gasping for breath!
What the?!!!
Please help me here, what makes a guy do that!!!?
I felt so rejected.
I had got tickets to go and see a show for later that day, for me and my husband, wasn't sure he wanted to go but he said he would. Usually he doesn't ike to be 'told' what to do. It usually has to be him who does all the planning, or at the last minute he will cancel or make us really late..am I reading too much into this?!
Let me explain
So there we are getting warmed up, my Husband is teasing me and touching meall good, then things progress, he goes down on me for quite a while, enters me.
then immediately pulls out abruptly saying ' oh yeh I forgot you wanted to go and do something today didn't you, don't have time for this then eh.' walks off and gets in the shower.
I was shocked, speechless, let alone gasping for breath!
What the?!!!
Please help me here, what makes a guy do that!!!?
I felt so rejected.
I had got tickets to go and see a show for later that day, for me and my husband, wasn't sure he wanted to go but he said he would. Usually he doesn't ike to be 'told' what to do. It usually has to be him who does all the planning, or at the last minute he will cancel or make us really late..am I reading too much into this?!
and Fadingintodarkness - you are spot on, but I will try and see what happens. I suspect he will put the blame back on me. He went to marriage counselling with his last wife and refused to go after one session as it was all about it being his fault., so he said! Two sides to every story eh.
Didn't really get anywhere except round in cirlces with him deflecting everything I said back at me with some misdemeanour I have done. His stance is that every point I made was all about mis-interpretation on my part.
That may be but surely that is the point!
If we see things differently then we need to work on how we can better see things somewhat closer in accuracy.I said.
He said - oh why is it always about me.what about you?!.sigh!
I can't believe some of the stories I see posted on DS!
Once more than 30 years ago I was with a guy who climaxed then RAN into the bathroom. He didn't seem to care whether or not I had finished. Well the funniest thing happened--I "came" ANYWAY just seconds after he left me "vacant". But I was still a little mad and yelled at him, "What's the matter with you? You got a f----ing TRAIN to catch?"
Bottom line is your Husband was being a selfish jerk at that moment.
Obviously he was pissed at you about something else so decided to be punitive and vindictive and for lack of a better term "teach you a lesson" instead of being a grown up and talking to you about what was on his mind he acted out his angry feelings towards you.
In my opinion that is not just childish but very cruel.
He needs to learn to communicate and grow up.
You have your hands full with him. I am sorry he was so mean to you. Very insensitive too. I cannot imagine someone being that way. It is just down right cold.
what the "punishment" was for . I would be really pissed if someone did
that to me. He owes you an explaination.
I am beginning to doubt everything I feel!
He has done it before and it really hurt. We were really going at it and he just jumped off me and went for the shower. He said it was late and I was just trying to control him and keep him in bed. That was nonsense it was him who initiated it, I thought he had to get going to work, I even said so, but he insisted 'just once more'. I told him then it was cruel and callous. It frightens me that my reaction this time was not as extreme, like I'm getting used to it, and thats not good!
Im beginning to think he has no empathy at all. Certainly hasn't got a clue how to treat a women.
maybe he was trying to be nice and knos you really wanted to go to the show so he did it asa nice gesture, but to just stop during sex like that is weird tho