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Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
What do you do if you are sex starved?

I try not to masturbate. It tends to depress me and for some reason it makes me feel less of a man. I am not sure why but I think it is because I look at it like a temptation instead of a basic human need.

Like when I use to do drugs and I quit that only to start drinking. I quit drinking so now I think I have a fear, either conscious or subconscious that I'll get addicted to masturbating so I don't do it anymore. I figure if I can't share intimacy with a woman then what good is it anyway? So I bury myself in work and the distraction helps me to forget what I am missing out on. I don't know if that's good or bad?

Thoughts, comments or suggestions please
MadameXXX
MadameXXX
.....I think you sound sweet but being nice and denying yourself pleasure never got anyone anywhere. I think that we can have all sorts of addictions, some healthy, some not so and I really can't see the harm that masturbation causes except that it is devoid of intimacy with another person, which you crave.
egoradel
egoradel
....and if you still can't pleasure yourself without feeling less a man, than masturbate as a health prevention to prostate cancer........either way you are actually helping yourself !!
satcom66
satcom66
Hey man, first of all, being addicted to masturbation is like being addicted to sneezing. It's a pretty normal thing to do. It's even pretty normal to do it a lot. If it gets to where it's screwing up your life, then it's time to do something.

So the real issue here, from my perspective, is why you believe you cannot share intimacy with a woman?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have my playtime often. It doesn't help with missing the intimacy and missing the feeling of his naked body with mine but it at least takes the edge off of the horniness.
des10ed2b
des10ed2b
i think you need to look at this more realistically. drugs and drinking are not beneficial to your health, masturbation IS good for your health. especially as a man. you need to release those fluids in order to maintain a healthy prostate. it is only an addiction if it is interfering with your normal day to day life.
koolman
koolman
I think the problem is not that you are sex-starved, but that you are AFFECTION-starved, bob!

I dunno...start talking with the ladies, try to get some warm vibes going! Then use some of that hard-earned work money to take her out to a movie or something, and see if that can lead to a make-out session and a sleepover!
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I think I just need a woman who knows how to push my buttons, that is, if one exists!

Thankyou all for your comments and for the time you all took to put some thought into your kind words!
reveal321
reveal321
i fall under the affection starved category...the passion starved category...the lust starved category...the emotional attachment starved category.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I watch some porn and just jack it. Okay. It's been almost 15 months, I feel like I"m going to lose my mind. I'm nice, I treat women with respect, and I'm handsome (not Brad Pitt, but you know, not the Elephant Man either) and I get nowhere! If I'm getting anywhere I don't know it. So, I just beat off to some porn.
Or I be grateful for the baggy jacket I'm wearing because I can't stop thinking about the girl who I'm interested in because she was posting on FB about being sexually frustrated and I was thinking about how much fun it would be to help her with her frustrations and trying not to let it show.
TheAnthemOfTheAngels
TheAnthemOfTheAngels
What do you do?

You leave her and find someone that supports you, cares for you, and loves you for who you are. You find someone that appreciates and cherishes time with you. You find someone that matches your sexual drive.

You find someone that deserves to be with you.
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