I eat because I get depressed at not getting sex. I gain weight and I hate myself even more. It's a vicious cycle!

Sigh!

Sapphire?

You're..................a................

vegetarian??????????????????

Bob, I hope she is laughing with you and not at you! :)

I'm just about 5 ft 8, currently 118 lbs, I've weighed as much as 130 before, which on me is too much, because my frame is so little. I never felt embarrassed about my body or anything though, sure if I had some extra lbs I might not feel quite a sexy as when I'm very fit, but I'd never let myself get overweight, that idea freaks me out.

High Five to you Faerie!!

Yeah thats what I am talking about.
LOVE doesnt change with any weight gain... its still the same person.
But as far as "attraction"... I mean...human nature and all- there is a reason why people are attracted to people before they even LOVE that person (usually -not always)

And I agree with kman...what happens to the OTHER persons confidence, how sexy they feel etc...

Well I will take the ex of the poster talking about the obese guy that had to be bathed by his Gfriend with a mop- making sure she got in the folds etc.. Now I would bet any amount of money ( even though OF COURSE its very evident that she LOVES him dearly) that she would want the man she loves to grab her-get her on that bed- and give it to her good with the ablility to move around any way he wanted.
Its just the reality, I think that the sex would be better.

According to Dr. Oz, for every 35 pounds a man gains, he loses an inch of penis length. Draw your own conclusions.

Lol yes I am a vegetarian. As well as being bisexual. And perhaps it is shallow (probably) of me. but I prefer my partners to be at least at my fitness level. But then again, I don't do those heavy romantic scenes with commitment and monogamy and all that anymore. So for me it's not a matter of "would I still love them if they gained?"
As far as weight gain = less penis length ... does that explain why so many of those tall, skinny guys are well hung?

I think having the standard that your partner or partners take the same care of themself as you do is more than reasonable. My bf is a very similar body type, long and long. People always use us as an example , ie: "there's Kendra and Joe on one end, then there's so & so on the other end" I can't help but laugh that a friend of mine classifies all of us that way, that someone may be in between his size and mine, lol.

haha, my comment should have said long and lean, lol. Heh.

Definately it does. I know someone that can only do 1 position with his wife because of her weight. And as for me, my weight effect my energy and accourding to my H it effects how i "feel" compared to when we met.

I think so. When I gain weight I feel uncomfortable even after being with my other half 18 years. But my husband doesn't seem to have an issue. I don't want to be touched, etc. I think that is when I get back on track and start eating better and exercise more. I think the better I feel and when I take care of myself I have the ability to move around more when other times I feel like I'm hiding..... I think it's all about each being comfortable in their body. When I feel good about my body sex is much better I think! My husband's weight doesn't bother me and I don't think it bother's him really. He's 5'11 and 225-230, I'm 5'3 and about 140. A few lbs make a huge diff in me (like in my stomach and thigh aread).

Thigh Area! I think my husband and I would still love each other just as much. We have been ones that our weight constantly goes up and down. We know what our limits are and when we need to change we change together. Teams! But weight does affect sex!

I have to add. And say that YES it does affect the sex life. I've been married for 15 years. In that time he has gained 100+ pounds. I am the same as when we married. This is hard to say without being graphic so it is what it is.

He can barely keep an erection anymore because he gets constant leg cramps. His breathing sounds as if he's dying. The only way he can penetrate me anymore is for me to literally put my legs up on his shoulders and he practically folds me in half. The size of his stomach literally pulls at my skin and sometimes becomes painful as he thrusts because he is smashing me all around. I cannot be on top of him because my size is not enough to move all the fat around up and off of the area around his "boy"
The best working position we have found is me on the edge of the bed and he stands but again, the leg cramp issue arises quickly.
His overall desire to have sex has greatly decreased Im sure because of all the issues we have when we try.

Note: I would never dare use his weight against him or say anything. He gets more oral than most men on earth because its about the only way I can please him anymore. If he has a lack of self confidence it is NOT because of me or how I react to him. I love sex and greatly miss it.

So just for the physical aspect, YES it matters but I would think only if the weight is significant. Putting on 10 pounds don't matter. 100 pounds, Yeah!