It does make a difference somewhat physically in terms of position comfort. As far as attraction is concerned tho, if you love your partner, that shouldn't matter. My wife and i are both still a little heavy and we both know that sex will only get better when the extra weight is gone :)

Self confidence definitely...

The only time I would have an issue is if they gained so much weight it was a health risk and they couldn't move around or breath properly. If we're talking a few lbs who cares but if they can't bend over or do anything then of course it would become an issues.

Just to add to what Mercedes said. having an orgasm requires expending energy and the more weight u have, the more tired you will get when trying to achieve those orgasms.


My wife had this problem when we use to have sex. The more weight she gained, the fewer orgasms she had and the less intense. Her favrite position for cumming was when she got on top but it became less comfortable for me. Consequentl I couldn't stay hard because I couldn't breathe! She blamed things on me because she didn't want to take responsibility for her own health issues!

Sigh!

Whats a husband to do?

Maybe you should of been on top Bob?

a lot of it depends on how much weight they gain, I think some positions are better than others as some have stated. I like the reply about orgasms, that's a very interesting point (and a scary one too, b/c I have problems w/ my my weight)

Merc I know believe me I have tried everything. With me on top its hard to get everything to line up right lol....don't know how else to put it!

Everything I do to try to make things work without wasting alot of time is just exasperating to her and she quickly loses interest or laughs at me or both.

Ahh well!

my weight does not affect my seld confidence because i am that comfortable with my partner but the positons are not so easy as they used to be before we both put on extra weight. the endurance and energy levels are lower too.

If my partner gained weight? no, lol. He's a little over 6 ft 2 and about 155. He's super ripped, which is nice :D

If I gain weight, I feel less sexy. If my guy gained weight, it would depend on how much he gained as to whether I'd be turned off. If he just gained himself a couple of love handles, no. If he gained himself five extra chins, probably yeah. I have this horrible thought- did anyone watch that documentary about the worlds fattest man? How he was all massive and had his girlfriend wash him with a mop? (ugh...) Anyway, I imagine having sex with him would be like sinking into a rippling heap of human fat. Not for me. If you have to hold flaps and folds back to so much as view the penis ,then IMO, he needs to lose a bit of weight.

I feel I may never have this problem with my boyfriend. He's one of those people that can eat a supersized pizza, and a huge dessert, and anything else that takes his fancy without putting on so much as an ounce.

I hate him for that sometimes. All I need to do is look at a picture of a cake and I go up a dress size.

I say yes sex wise my ex husband gained and I couldent fix right on top anymore just dident work but I was 95 pounds and im only 4" 10 but it dident make me love him any less.

Sex is a very heavy topic....

For me, it would take away some of the excitement. I dunno. There's something about small girls that gets my fire going.

Um...yep.

The real question is: Would it affect how the weight-gaining partner would feel about THEMSELVES?

Ugh. Tough subject for me. While with my last partner (female BTW). I lost weight, tons of it, while she managed to gain some. Eventually, I could not stand looking at her! Plus being with her long enough had the negative effect of making me become lax in my food intake.