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I heard on News Radio 610 WIOD from this jerk who calls himself the "Cigar General" (he's into smoking cigars like Ah-nold) that, in his conversations with women, the overriding reaction was that women are looking for a man who is a "take charge" alpha-male kind of guy, who doesn't ask them where they want to go for dinner but says "we're going here and you're going to wear this dress", virtually taking control of their entire lives. He says that the feminist movement changed the gender roles in America, where women have become the dominant ones and men the complete saps. This, from a man who says has had "harems", where he was the king and his honies flocked around him to please him in every way. In the same breath, he claims he placed these women on pedestals and treated them like royalty. Seems that the two can't co-exist--domination and worship.
I know these are gross generalities and there are certainly variations person-to-person, but I'd like to believe women don't like to be treated as party favors, sex dolls, doormats or window-dressing, and it seems to me there is a fine line between being a man who is confident within himself and a man who is completely full of himself and disrespectful to others, including his woman. Ladies, please tell me that there are a lot of you who like a man who is strong but attentive to your needs and not a complete asshole-! I don't think I would like being such a character.
I know these are gross generalities and there are certainly variations person-to-person, but I'd like to believe women don't like to be treated as party favors, sex dolls, doormats or window-dressing, and it seems to me there is a fine line between being a man who is confident within himself and a man who is completely full of himself and disrespectful to others, including his woman. Ladies, please tell me that there are a lot of you who like a man who is strong but attentive to your needs and not a complete asshole-! I don't think I would like being such a character.
Go back and read my replies, there, Paul. Let's see who is actually carrying on an intellectual debate.
If you can't say anything nice...
I'm going to the dr and I expect both of your prayers of support to be shot up to the big guy for me.
Let's be civil. This is silly!
they aren't dating women. They don't see it from the battle grounds.
I know you have probably seen quite a bit Rob, working as a bouncer in a bar..(looked over your profile) I bet you could write a freaking book.
But I suppose it's like the age-old question of why so many men seem to prefer bitches as well - it's all down to the individual, and what you think you're worth.
I just want to know why so many men suddenly turn into assholes once you're already committed - false advertising or what???
but I agree Phoenix it's mostly about what you think YOU are worth..I have seen the women that are 9 or 10 on a scale are usually the women with the lowest self esteem. and thus the women that are more inclined to go after the man that is like that.
it's all false advertising in the beginning..no one shows their true colors out n the beginning of a relationship...My ex never led me to believe that she wanted to sit on her dumpy ass all day long and watch Oprah and still couldn't manage to get the laundry cleaned.
Some of us are maybe more used to having guys go after us purely for our looks, and what we can do for their egos ............. if that happens often enough, then we are going to have much lower expectations of men generally - it's all a case of what you're used to.
It took my male friends to make me see that I should be expecting a bit more from a guy.
.if a woman was to be like a 7 or 8 gaining 1.5 pounds would be more like they really don't care. or more than likely they don't weight themselves every day
But, that is just my opinion.
The worship part will get old just as quick as the dominater. the one doing the worship will demand so much attention it will suffocate the woman.
while the dominater usually isn't attached emotionally and so acts like a jerk all the time.
i agree that if a man involves himself in a relationship he must develop a way to be slightly both.....more indication that relationships are way too much hassle.
Maybe it all depends on how you rate a woman's beauty as well - I know I'm not "cute" by any conventional standard, it's all down to the make-up brush and knowing my body shape - although I'm told I'd have been a big hit in medieval times with my high forehead :)
I think any woman can be beautiful if she makes the best of what she's got, it also takes confidence to ignore fashion and go with what works for you.
But the shallow guys as described by Koolman are probably always going to go for the Barbie dolls, so that becomes some kind of ideal.