Sorry, every time I hear someone talk about pump it up, this is what I think of..
It's an old snl skit - pump up the bird, a parody to the old nike's that you could pump, but I never understood why you would pump a sneaker

http://www.hark.com/clips/vvcxdrwrxs-get-a-nikey-turkey-and-pump-it-up

sorry that you're having problems with this. I haven't ever had to deal with this myself and thought actually that what he's doing with his hips,his hands,his mouth was often more stimulating than such deep penetration.
I think it's great that he's open and willing to experiment with you in an effort to change his size.Hopefully you can keep enjoying all the other ways in which you have sex with him and perhaps have "toytime" together when needed.

toy time is ok, it just isnt as intimate, or i havent figured out to make it as intimate. i just know in the past we eventually stopped having sex.
i know there are alot of things to do with sex other than just the penetration factor... but sometimes i just want that LOL

and too funny MsViv... you know... it was quite hilarious, and any feelings i had went out the window in my fit of laughter watching this whole thing take place... and im sure the sneakers work better ha

Have you tried all different positions for deeper penetration? You can try after he's inside, putting your legs together. If you're in missionary or laying on your belly, put pillows under your hips to raise you up more. Try all different positions and angles to see if you find something that works.

When you say small, what do you mean by that? How big is it in inches during erection?

about 5 inches i think, i haven't actually measured it... and doesnt make up in thickness. its just that even with all the other good stuff, especially when i am very excited, i want it, bad... and get disappointed when i cant have it the way i want it.

I've read 5-7 inches is the average, so what are you needing? Eight inches or more? Or just thicker?

have you tried a pillow under your bottom?

5 inches is average.

The 5-7 inch average was from a study done using questionnaires. The 5 inch average is from actual measurements taking a medical setting.

the last study I read compared the two and drew the conclusion that men lie about how big they are.

5 inches is not small in my book. i have had some awesome sex with guys that are 5 inches. i think you just need to find positions that hit your spots better.

I think they may grow them bigger in my area. I've never seen a 5" weenie, not that it would be a problem

Does it fit into a regular condom? That is the question.

Try putting your leggs up on his shoulders. This will allow him to go deeper and change the angle to hit your spot better. :)
hope this helps.

If you're talking girth, not length then deeper won't help. What will help is if stimulate your clit while he's in you. You can also use your hand to kind of pull up on your labia...helps to "hug" him...

I'm guessing you're missing the feeling of "fullness"...

yes, if you are missing girth, than you can have him press down on your lower belly and little bit.