First of all, welcome Linny13. Do his heart meds restrict him from taking Viagra or something like that? If the problem is low libido, that could be a quick solution if he's willing.

Hi Sbstock.. umm ya he is not willing to do Viagra...his previous gf made him take them..and he wont this time around..thanx tho

Talk to him and comunicate your desires. If that dosent work then I think you need to express your dissatisfaction and tell him your either going to look elsewhere or get a divorce if this is something that you cant live without!

In my opinion only he is being VERY selfish!

I wish you the best of luck!

Thank you..and yes this has been at the back of my mind..i have been going to counseling for almost a year now..to seek the help of wanting to stay with him..i did just tell him today that I am sick of having "sex dreams" with random guys..like every night..and then having to pleasure myself with a vibrator to get over the edge.. (angry face here) ..I just don't know what to do anymore..from me telling him this..his just completely shut off from communication from me..and that is the hard part as we have been business partners for the past 10 years..and work at each others side..day in and day out..

Give him a BJ get him hard , don't get him off,
but have your dildo ready, when he's hard & you stop tell him either his dick goes in you or the dildo does, but I'm done with the BJ right now !

There's millions of men on heat meds, I am, Me & millions of men still can have intercourse.

Hi Linny,
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. It sounds so heartbreaking and frustrating.
My own suspicions tell me it is not necessarily the heart meds that are preventing him from performing..that they are rather an excuse for something else...
The reason I say that is because he cutting off communication with you whenever you bring this problem to the table. If it was just a question of side effects from meds, then as your loving husband he should be willing and wanting to do what's necessary to make you happy, and to share again in that wonderful gift that comes with any loving partnership. The fact that you are seeing a counselor about it should be raising red flags to him. He has low libido...that is no excuse for zero interest in saving your marriage.
Have you underscored the gravity of perpetual negligence?

Sorry---of HIS perpetual negligence.

Taking viagra while on heart meds can be very dangerous!

BOTH, you and he need to have a discussion with his doctor to find out what his other options are if there are any. Maybe his heart isn't even strong enough for sex. No sense putting his life at risk!

I can understand your disappointment but these are things most of us have to deal with as we get older. I hope you and your husband can arrive at some mutually satisfying compromise!

Good Luck!

I'm assuming he gets erect with the BJ . if that's true he should be fine without Viagra as long as you 'inflate' his penis.
If he goes soft while he's in your vagina then u need to look for ways of keepin things up. cock rings ect. .

It's best to check meds online too don't just ask the doc, I've had docs give me new meds that could've killed me if I'd taken them, b/c they'd cause problems b/c of another med I was taking..
I've met a lot of ppl at docs with same prob.

My friends hubby couldn't get an erection b/c of his heart med, It depends what the med is & for I guess...I don't know if She did BJ's on him, BJ's are more stimulating than a hand of course,
He passed on a few yrs ago, so I can't ask him.

Thanx for the concern..he did however just recently ask his doctor for VIAGRA ...he did this on his own too..so we yet to try it out..but hopefully this can be the answer..we know the signs to look for if he is need of going to the ER,,so thank you again.