i recently had sex for the first time with my girlfriend, a beautiful BBW, and i had the same problem i tried missionary on top but couldnt get it in. at first she got on top and rode me then we switched and she helped me get it in. you have to get close with your knees as far under her legs on either side of her butt as you can with her legs up and spread. once you get used to it its all good. :)

I only recently joined this site, but am amazed that twice I've read straightforward requests for advice that both happened to involve larger sized women...and both times ppl are getting insulted, calling the person asking for help an asshole, or insensitive, or whining that he should've asked the question this way or that. Folks, here of all places can't we just speak our minds and ask what we need to ask using lingo we're comfortable with? There are enough hang ups out there to where so much of this is taboo...where else can we practically go with these questions??? I said elsewhere but will repeat here, I'm morbidly obese by clinical definition, and have not found anything the slightest bit offensive by these questions. Jumping on the ppl who are asking only serves to make the next person wary/unwilling to ask his/her question.

I agree with the insensitivity on this site. I have asked serious questions and been insulted or made fun of.
This web site didn't used to be that bad. But lately it seems like everyone's out to cut your throat.
I'm not perfect. But I do try to give the person the benefit of the doubt!

I have been married to BBW for 15 years and i have no problems with sex. yes there are some positions that just do not work . You must be creative and remember this is supposse to be fun.

I have a BBW and sex is awesome. Be creative and things will work out great. They are for me. Doggie is nice.

I'm overweight, and while your question really didn't offend me, i know i wouldn't like being referred to as "BBW".

Also, it seems the best positions are again.. Doggie Style and Cowgirl (girl on top). Someone also mention her being on the edge of the bed and you standing.. That is also a great position.

What is BBW?

Being a BBW myself, I've always found sex to be awkward. I've not had a lot of partners. But I was fortunate to have been with someone who enjoys larger women. He had had a number of partners in the past, so he was always the one coming up with new positions to try.

Doggie style was fun. Usually we would be in a missionary position with my legs wrapped around him. Or my legs straight up and slightly bent.

You just need to experiment and find positions that are comfortable for both of you:)

Im a chunky girl and as many women on here have said i am not offended to this post AT ALL! i actually opened it up myself looking for more ideas from others. though there hasnt really been any position that i cant handle or havent been able to do.....i do like doggy but us big girls like to be looked into the face once in a while too.......

i agree with watching some BBW porn.....

I have watched some BBW porn in the past to get some position ideas. Just because a gal is large, does not mean she cant move. Doggie, sideways, edge of the bed and her on top are all good. Just relax, have fun and enjoy.

I don't have much advice; only support. I wouldn't consider myself anything but average size, but my first several times having sex were still very awkward because I just didn't really know what I was doing, and neither did the guy. It's not just you! I think it always helps to have a talk (doesn't even have to be serious, it can even be sexy or funny!) and think of all the random positions you're curious about. Try several out and see how you both like them. You never know til you try, and my long-term boyfriend and I still find things we like that we never thought we would until we tried them! Even those cheesy position-a-day books or cards can be fun, because they encourage you to try out the most RANDOM positions and no one has to take responsibility for thinking them up; you can just say the book said so, haha- Best of luck, and I hope your relationship goes well :)

This shouldn't be difficult. I think many of you are overlooking the first steps in good sex. If you are with a large woman, then she most likely will have taken a lot of shit throughout her life over her size. She will likely not be very comfortable with her body. She probably doesn't feel that sexy. So first thing is to get to know one another. She needs to be told how beautiful she is. You need to be sincere in this. Once she can feel sexy and attractive then you just take your time. My wife is quite large, I guess you would say SSBBW, and we have never had problems. There were learning curves but our sex life has been great for 20 years now.

So if you are both comfortable then try the positions you have read about here. She may be afraid to get on top but let me tell you this is the best position I know of. She gets on you and sits up. You will get good deep insertion.

Have fun!

I agree, your penis is probably just too small!

Jesus. Talk about a bunch of quick to jump bitches. FFS. There is nothing wrong with being, being with, or even being referred to as a BBW.

Sex is supposed to be fun, Nathanial. ;] So have fun with it! You two seem comfortable with each other.. so talk about it. She knows she's a big girl. Let her know you accept it and love it. She'll open up with a world of different things she'd like to do.

Being a bbw, I've noticed that unless I feel comfortable with the person.. I'm not going to open up completely. My boyfriend now happens to love bbws and worships every inch of my body. I don't think I've ever had sex this good before.

Just talk to her about it. There are many positions she and you can do that aren't a strain. Try also, investing in a body wedge. it's a big triangular pillow that allows you to bend and position at just the right angles. perfect for big girls. ;]

Tit-fucking seems to be the top priority-!