Gzus I know there are some out there, but to quote a wise man. And Ive tried to make the marriages work , but his advice was simple.

Never put your weapon in the case, less the case be one you can spend a lifetime with

Gzus, I got pregnant with my first child when I was 18, had him when I was 19. Been with the father for 21 years, we have 4 kids total now.

THANK YOU MCAR. I WAS BEGINNING TO LOSE HOPE. THAT IS REALLY AN AWESOME STORY THAT YOU TWO HAVE MADE IT WORK FOR SO LONG.


I APPLAUD YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.

WHAT'S YOUR SECRET TO A LONG LASTING AND FORFILLING MARRIAGE?

I have 3 kids and am still happily married to thier dad.

I wanted sex the most in my second trimester. With my second pregnancy I had alot of pain from adhesions (from surgeries) sex was not fun at all. Nothing was fun when I was in all that pain, actually.

Gzus - My next neighbors got married at 15 because she was pregnant and they are both now in there mid 20s and making it...3 children later

THANK YOU FOR THE POSITIVE REPORTS OF FAMILIES THAT CAN ACTUALLY STAY TOGETHER.


IT IS REALLY AWESOME TO HEAR AND IT ENCOURAGES ME THAT IT IS STILL POSSIBLE IN THIS WORLD.


I'LL JUST HAVE TO USE MY MULLIGAN TO DO IT...I GET ONE DO OVER RIGHT.LOL.

Thanks Gzus but there really is no secret. It hasn't been easy, we have had our share of financial challenges, work stress, kids stress, etc, but through it all you have to keep the respect, admiration and romance alive. And one biggy....NEVER EVER call each other names or say hurtful things. Arguing is not a bad thing, you will have disagreements, but you can do it without hurting each other.

Yeah, it is a rare thing for couples to stay together. I will say this -

I would NOT bring a child into the world (meaning you are planning to) unless you are with a stable partner and have a solid relationship. Otherwise, you're basically doomed to fail.

Secondly - there are no guarantees in life. That is sad, but true. I never thought, 5 kids later, I would be a single mom. But it happens time and time again. If you do have a solid marriage and have a child, you just hope, pray, and work at your relationship continuously. Don't not have a child out of fear also. They are great things. But just never are there guarantees.

i agree with flutter...i expected 2 stay with my childs father but i just wouldn't put up the abuse anymore and it was the best thing to move on...we still talk and i have never said anything bad about him 2 my child....

I had my first child when I was 17. I left his father six months later for having sex with men in our basement.. I met a complete asshole that I had 2 daughters with. When I left that asshole I found the most marvelous man on the planet. We dated for 6 weeks then got married. That was almost 15 years ago. We have an 11 year old together and he has been an amazing dad to the 3 older kids too.

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia almost 2 years ago. We've been in marriage counseling for the last year and a half to try to figure out our parts now that I am physically limited. He seems to be doing ok with the bills and is trying to cope with all the work raising four children is with a sick spouse.

I love him eternally.

Here's to love!
Laura
-BB

Well from a medical perspective. If there are no complications with the pregnancy there is no reason other than discomfort or personal preference for intimacy to continue. The baby is surrounded by fluid so the most you will do it just make the little guy slosh around a bit like bobbing in a pool.

I mean there is no reason for intimacy to stop just because of pregnancy

Gzus- I'm still with the father of my children and have no intentions of that changing.

My hubby and I got pregnant about four years after we got married, our son is about to turn four and marriage has been good. Yes, we have our ups and downs. But we stick together and make it work. When we grow apart, we do things to make our friendship and relationship get stronger. It is not easy, but I think it would be harder to be apart, having that support is nice.

Good luck with these tuff times Gzus!