Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Are there any general rules as to what physical types attract each other? I'm a slender guy and tend to go for slender women attractive. Despite my best efforts to try and get an erection with a dare-I-say fat woman, I can't do it! Is there something psychologically intimidated in me about being smothered or swallowed up by her? I do have a large cock, but it shrinks every time when I look at a heavy woman.
I know the emotional aspect of a relationship, blah blah blah, but, in purely lustful terms, do fat people tend to attract other fat people and slender people tend to attract other slender people?
I know fat guys would love to get slender girls, and vice versa, but, in terms of actually hooking up and having sex, it doesn't seem to work that way. It seems we all look for someone similar TO OURSELVES, including physically...is this some primordial evolutionary desire to procreate human beings similar to ourselves?
I know the emotional aspect of a relationship, blah blah blah, but, in purely lustful terms, do fat people tend to attract other fat people and slender people tend to attract other slender people?
I know fat guys would love to get slender girls, and vice versa, but, in terms of actually hooking up and having sex, it doesn't seem to work that way. It seems we all look for someone similar TO OURSELVES, including physically...is this some primordial evolutionary desire to procreate human beings similar to ourselves?
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I find myself going places in the car and not wanting to get out of the car. I come back home and I don't want to get out of the car. I think it's the only time I spend reflecting. Chronic tiredness from Long Covid plus the immunosupressing meds for my Crohn's is slowing me down but everything just seems a massive effort. I am dealing with the paperwork following my father's death but it's not...
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Wow, it's the middle of the week already!Today is our 11 year anniversary, so we're going out to a nice dinner. I'm losing a lot of sleep these days, hence a wonky schedule and uncomfortable feelings. But I know it will pass, eventually.I hope all of you have a peaceful day, and may good things come your way!
as I've observed before, though I might think I have a type I fall in love with whoever. Their size can vary over the period of the relationship, and I've gone up and then down several sizes.
And what, may I ask, are YOUR hang-ups with YOUR sexual likes and dislikes?
Sorry ladies if I was rude. Hey, I can laugh at myself. You ladies should try it sometime.
Laughing at yourself? Yes I see it now. I guess I owe you an apology...
My general type is about 5'7"-5'11" and generally 160 or over in weight.
If women weren't killing themselves to live up to an ideal perpetuated by statements like the ones you've uttered here, maybe more of us would find them funny.
Perhaps you could visit the "Eating Disorders" discussion, and shut up and listen for a while. You might learn a thing or two.
May I offer up a suggestion?
If and when we find something distasteful .. may we all have the wisdom to speak to that individual in private ..
I have been somewhat disappointed with the conduct of some on this board .. I won't be sending any personal emails ..
To all I say .. please .. temper your responses with kindness .. and compassion ..
We can all learn from one another .. without causing harm ..
My opinion .. for what it's worth ..
If I want to post a topic of an EMOTIONAL nature, I go to the Healthy Relatiohships board. Healthy Sex is about SEX, and, if more men and women could talk shamelessly about their sexual desires without the angry hornet's nest lynch mob surfacing, men and women would indeed get along better. I would like to have civilized conversations with women who can have a sense of humor about their own weight (as I do about my borderline albanism). Maybe this isn't the place...SEEYA
What are you going to do if your wife gets fat some day?? Do you think it would hurt her to say, "There something psychologically intimidated in me about being smothered or swallowed up by you. I do have a large cock, but it shrinks every time when I look at your heavy body."???
It's funny, because years ago I was just like you. I was an immature young 20 year old that was so worried about what others would think of me. I was roller skating and a lady that I knew with a weight problem asked me to skate with her in couples only. I immediately started to think what would my friends think of me skating with her??? I couldn't come up with a lame excuse off the top of my head and so I said, "Yes." As we skated, she had such a beautiful smile and her personality was what ended up attracting me. Her and I hit it off on a conversation and I didn't even pay attention to who was watching me nor did I care either. The strangest thing was, by the time we were done skating I found her attractive. We are still friends today and I still think she is pretty.
I had one similar experience in 1992 with a lady that I was taken back by her weight at first. She ended up being such a good friend that we even had sex and man was I rock hard!! Don't judge a book by its cover as you might be missing out on some wonderful ladies out there. You are entitled to your opinions but try wording them so as not to appear as a typical male looking to get his rocks off with a model. Everyone can have their preference but we don't need to be rude about it. I do think you didn't mean to come across that way but you as can see several ladies here did take it as rude.