Thanks for all of your responses. I loved reading each of your ideas on the subject.

Anthem, I can't answer this by looking inside because I am defective that way. We spoke about that one time.

awesomeself, I use to know somebody like that also but I don't dare reconnect because things are so much different now and I would be afraid of rekindling that old, consuming flame.

Jazzy, loved your common sense answer.

Zabooie, I hate getting aarp junk mail!

Koolman, can you feel complete without sex and with love only?

Leather, I don't think it's possible to have sex without a certain amount of love.

Satcom, Abraham Maslow would disagree with you about sex not being a need http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs

Insightful, I think the trouble with having an FWB is that you have to have a huge amount of trust in each other. That often ends up as love and love of sex so to speak.

i wouldnt have a use in hell for sex with someone unless i really cared about them. never bought sex when i was a young soldier. it seemed pointless to me..

Captain, I think you were the only one to recognize that there are feelings involved with everyone we have sex with outside of abusive sex such as rape and incest.

Great thinking!

Bob, I don't believe everyone needs to have feelings involved to have sex with some one. I've had sex with no feelings involved, didn't know the guy well enough to have any kind of feelings for him. Sexual attraction towards someone but I don't consider sexual attraction as having feelings for someone.

just tossing this out there, I do believe it is possible to be in a sexual relationship with out feelings of love. FWB for instance.
Also would reply as we evolve in matters of sexuality or love, the tide has changed greatly over the years.
Long gone are the days of not giving it up til marriage, though I hear that is kinda being resurrected. Look back in time, and the male was the instigator in most trysts, or so history would lead us to believe, nowadays, there are a great many ladies who do the instigating, {cougars}.and those who have reached a heightened awareness of their sexuality.
While often times we or some believe that a man is very less emotionally involved in a sexual relationship (merely there to get their gunb off) and that women are more in tune, needing a connection to have sex, those ideals are not necessarily the norm.
Lets face it, both sexes have evolved, neither good nor bad, but truth is as always, as long as the girlies got the goodies, then they also control or can control the flow of the game. JMO

No sex before marriage, that IMO is a huge mistake! I always had the opinion that a couple should live together for at the least 2 years before getting married. Sexual compatibility along with being compatible in every other way is too important in a relationship to risk getting married without knowing you're compatible with each other.

It takes couple days to have sex. It takes couple years to develop love personaly for me.

Does that depend on wheather a person wants love for self pleasure or if it is to give the partner the greatest pleasure possible. It is better to give love than recieve it?

Dunno, but right now, could use some love. If that leads to sex, great. I think I just need to relax more than anything lol.

New Year's resolution: To relax more!