Healthy Sex Support Group

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Poor deprived soul...

veggiequeen
veggiequeen

I am embarrassed and ashamed to admit I have NEVER  hit the big O. I was brought up to be ashamed of my body and guilty for even thinking about sex. 


It is only recently that I have finally overcome all the hang ups and shame  I used to associate with it. Iam on antidepressants as well. I also recently switched meds since I had friends who had this issue with what I was on last. They say this can still cause a delay in getting there.


Next issue...was only with 2 others before hubby (both fwb) ....all three were basically 5 minute men. Currently divorcing hubby of 15 yrs. (Last 10 plus have been SEXLESS)


I don't exactly have what I prefer (an eager, willing participant) so I am having to resort to me and my toys.


I do have my "magic wand" but it is not quite equipped to reach or maintain the g spot. They say the clit is the way to get there. I believe that. While I do ok and come so very close, I believe can't quite get there. So many things I have missed out on (both in sex and llife) that I still want to do.


(Do you know what it is like to look at every man with warm eyes and a caring smile and want to whisk him away for a week....or two? Lol)


Any suggestions from anyone (aside from pouncing on any male in the vicinity with a devilish twinkle in his eyes????)



Nopleasure
Nopleasure
@veggiequeen I really feel for you and I can so so relate. I have not had an O with any of my sexual partners (3). I did manage to please myself before having had intercourse the first time. (Well I thought I was pleasing myself and getting an O, but hey maybe I wasn't). After having intercourse for the first time I have not been able to please myself nor have an orgasm during f aex with a partner. Thinking I am seriously flawed!
veggiequeen
veggiequeen
@nopleasure--- I understand your thinking. After talking with so many and hearing time and time again--- if you have to wonder, then it is very doubtful you have hit the big O. They tell me our eyes should pop out of our head. lol I have gotten very close , but can't quite push myself over the edge. I would like tothink if we were lucky enough to find a man who actually wanted to please us as much as we would like to him we might stand a chance. I am thinking we both have been with guys who are simply there to get their rocks off (pardon my mouth)

After hearing of so many men who (supposedly) enjoy pleasing and seeing just what they can do to (and for us) here's hoping that we both may find one of those SOON.

PS I don't know about you , but I also enjoy seeing what I can do for him (but like you said, in the back of my mind, I do feel screwed up too)