Well I am not a woman but I know from my many experiences that many women prefer to climax during intercourse both from clitoral stimulation as well as a G-spot orgasm. My wife of 21 years doesn't care as long as she can get off. She is one of those fortunate women that can cum twice from both stimulations. I've gone down on many women who didn't have a problem with having an oral orgasm. Only a few objected to it because they wanted intercourse and several explained to me that they were scared that I might not screw them if they came orally. It didn't make sense to me but then I am a man.

I have to be honest here. I have never heard of this before.
I ALWAYS let the man make me orgasm while he is performing oral!
In fact I prefer it.

with just clitoral stimulation the orgasm tends to be very shallow. a full G-spot orgasm tends to be more satisfying.

How old are you? Just curious

You might need to learn about technique, a lot of guys think they know what to do, but are a bit too rough. You need to listen to and explore her body, women are not like guys, it takes something different with each one and sometimes they don't tell you as to not discourage you

Don't know what those women's problems are. Sounds like the perfect orgasm and you sound like the perfect guy. Maybe you haven't met a woman who appreciates your finely tuned talent.

Like stressedguy said, maybe its too rough? My bf often does it too rough, or with too much contact on the clitoris. Idk how to explain it but it almost feels TOO good to where it stops feeling good all together. Also, they could just prefer having sex. I know I do, I like getting rough and everything and I don't want to miss out on that! Definitely try different things though, rhythms and what not.

I typed out a bunch of stuff but deleted all of it. Everything all of you said is valid and helpful. I asked her about it that same night (long before my post here). Not a lot of closure or clarity. All I can do is try to communicate. Physically and verbally. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. If she's not comfortable with it or lying about me being good, oh well. I enjoy finding out and knowing what makes a woman tick. Thanks everyone.

I myself dont cum often , in fact rarely, from intercourse alone....I always need clitoral stimulation like the statics say 75% of all women do
The only reason I would stop a guy from letting me cum from oral is if he sucked. And I probably wouldnt tell him and invest any time teaching him either if he werent something serious for me...it would be a waste of my time.
Sorry for my bluntness too.
I have to be (what my friends have often called me) brutally honest in telling you that if EVERY woman u have gone down on, has stopped u and requested the D...then u must not be very good at it.
Seriously.
Ill tell u the best course of action
Women dont like to tell a man when they suck at something...especially sexually... men think they are oh so macho ..but the reality is theyre quite fradgile if not handled correctly.
Being told u need improvement in the sac would be a major kick to your ego and leave you with feelings of not being masculine enough...
So women just stay quiet to avoid you having to question your manhood.
Arent we sweet ?
Do u know any lesbians by any chance?
If not try to find and at least have a drink with one and ask her for some pointers.
Like someone up there said
All women are different but for the most part what feels good for one will feel good for most..
I basically dont particularly care if a man goes down on me or not...unless im in a very dominating mood and am not worried if I scare or intimidate him when I grab him by the hair and start making very specific demands
And thats because ive learned that women do it better. They just do.
So if I were u, since u really do enjoy it...id get ahold of a lesbian willing to advise u.
Dont give up something u enjoy and eventually she will too , just because u need a little tutoring on it..
That would suck

@ freakchic, thanks. Sounds good.

There are times when my wife pulls me on top of her and times when she orgasms from oral sex. Depends on what she wants and I just "flow" with it (lol).

Important for a partner to communicate what is needed, IMO

What I do is oral on her first until she comes real hard, then she orals me, then we have intercourse. During intercourse, she will orgasm several times (yes, she is multi-orgasmic) and then we go at it until we both come at the same time. Maybe take care of her needs first and not to aggressive...gradually build up until she is going bonkers and coming in your mouth.

Another technique I use is building her up until she is squirming, stop, let her cool down a bit, repeat until she is coming and then have intercourse. Just a couple of things I know that have worked for me and my wife. Both of these ways have worked especially well when one takes anti-depressants because of the side- effects men have sometimes.

Whenever I read posts about oral sex I feel a bit sad cos I think I must be missing something somewhere. I never got that much out of it, it always felt like it was too much and I'd get them to stop. I'm wondering now if the guys just weren't that good at it!

Well sir, just describing it made me start to feel something. Imagination is making me horny!! OMG!!

I'm glad that I'm getting the response that I am from this. Honestly, didn't think many people would say anything but boom. D.S. delivers again. Thanks for all encouragement and feedback. I didn't go in to detail of the situation (as previously mentioned, I had already asked her about it) because I just wanted other opinions/feedback and typing up the entire situation would be a friggin novel. Not a patient typist.
I did, however, give the entire story to a lady friend of mine. She mentioned some of the same stuff all of you have. The lover and I just need to talk it out if she feels like it. Ball is in her court, obviously.
Thanks again everyone!