Maybe you should explain clearly to your partner what you want and equally clearly, what he wants from you.

You might test apps for partners to encourage intimacy and increase play. I have been using iyoni app to track fertility issues, and know they have such nice features. Hope this helps.

I'd settle for 3 times a year!!! I got nothing so far.

Hi Turningthesage! I commend you for coming forward and being so open and honest about what you are going through. I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time. From what you shared it sounds like he is having impotency issues and he doesn't know how to deal with them. This is a very sensitive issue especially for a man. It can make them feel very insecure. He may not know what to do and could be afraid of losing you. I think it would be best for both of you to work on doing things together of a romantic nature that will bring you close together and create intimacy without sexual intercourse. Things like message, kissing, touching and caressing each other, cuddling. Focus on being close to each other and experiencing personal touch without actually having sex. I think establishing open communication with each other in a non threatening way is very important. I recommend writing to each other. Taking the time to give your lover a letter or card and put your feelings down on paper so that you can think about what you say before you say it and bring it across in the best way possible, not interrupt each other, hear each other out and be able to keep it and read it over and over again is a huge plus! Some people like to keep a box with letters and cards from their lover and go back and read them whenever they maybe feeling down or having a tough time in their relationship. It also gives you a visual reminder of the progress you are making in your relationship and lets you know when you have achieved certain goals. It is a nice way to be reminded of your love for each other. And it can bring you closer together. There are so many ways that you can share intimacy with someone and correspondence and communication is one of them. I am a writer and I find it helpful in my relationships. Thought I would share it with you.

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Those comments I had to agree with this because when I was with my partner I never cheated on him and I don’t use social media for hook ups during in relationship plus I still get concern about him that he might not be telling the truth behind my back which I don’t want to assume and I just wanted both of us in same page and communicate each others. Honest is very important. As right now it are not together and he never said that we broke up but it makes me feel like it was broke up and he put single on his social media and told everyone that he doesn’t want me come back and all of that.

He should know better that we first met in person and he know I have some health issues that he must know about everything and he goes with me to see check up dr appts and all of that.

In general I had seen in hook up apps and website about people use their profile and not telling the truth about their hiv status and how people would react to it if they meet in person without knowing about their status and have hook up? This is very bad idea and same thing about not telling the truth about drugs.

I always have to be honest with my real profile of my hiv status and let them know if they interested in me and they will message me about meet up. So it’s on people’s decision and I always open to them being honest with myself and I don’t judge people who they are but they still need to think twice before it happens to anyone

I’m sorry for your struggle. It seems very common that it happens to a lot of couples. Have you considered trying counseling? Or branching out?

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Hi, my suggestion is talk to your partner and share what you really want and needs, open communication is key. If it still continues maybe then it's time to seek other options, Good luck!
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When communication gets locked down, that can be a good time to invest in counseling to either help yourself move on to a more healthy relationship with a new partner (or a time-out to work on just your own issues), or get the counselor's help facilitating communication with your partner so you each have a chance to give clear input about whether you each are committed to all the work needed to continue in this relationship.

Some truths are hard to tell, but my experience is that they are less painful than recovering from the damage of not telling and doing impulsive things that may not be great decisions or healthy for yourself.

Take good care of yourself even if you don't still have the energy or opportunity to take care of your partner. You still matter.