Healthy Sex Support Group
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I need advise from both sexes. have you ever been so attracted to someone that when it was time to have sex, it wasnt happen or one was too exicited?
heres the story: this guy & i have been flirting with one another for awhile and decided we would act on the flirtations. well loong story short the sex was not good....on both parts. he wasnt a good kisser but not bad...I was wanting to tie him up & he wasnt having it ...i got turn off. then i thought maybe too soon. so we started & i have not had sex in awhile (father's death & depression) so i was so ready, i wanted to rape him BUT it didnt go as planned. we had sex & i blood was on the condom, I was so ashame & still is. I was thinking has it been that long? not enough where it was on the sheets or anything then I just douche & i was soooo dry that he tore me. we used lub but i was so embrassed i just wanted to wake up from the nightmare.
heres the question...should I say something? I felt things were odd afterward? men what would you be thinking if blood was on the condom? and the sex wasnt good. he did tear me but i like it ruff, so im not bother...woman should i feel bad? ashamed? bothered? both -should I not see him again for sex and just be friends?
If you’re hot and wanted to do it again, I wouldn’t say no.
Something else to mention to you is don't douche before sex it will make you tighter and drier. And don't use soap to clean your vagina or body wash. You should only use feminine wash that is PH balanced and that does not have dye in it. Summer's eve makes some great ones. I personally use the one by Summer's eve called delicate blossom it has a mild clean fresh scent that is appropriate for sensitive skin, Dermatologist and Gynecologist tested and PH balanced. I use it on a washcloth with water to clean my vagina and bottom. I use my body wash on my body puff with water for the rest of my body and I use a special cleanser for my face.
To be honest with you it is not good to douche at all our bodies are designed to clean themselves out. If you are not feeling clean or fresh it is better to take a shower or bath and use feminine wash. You should never use soap or body wash in your vagina they can dry out your natural lubricant and make it easier for you to become irritated down there or to get a yeast infection.
It is very important that you drink enough water to maintain good overall health and good sexual health. Cranberry is also very good for feminine health it has other health benefits also. It is very good to prevent Urinary tract infections they have cranberry supplements however cranberry juice can often have a lot of added sugar so be sure to drink even more water when you drink cranberry juice. Because too much sugar can cause yeast infections, Diabetes and other health problems.
It is also important to be careful in choosing a laundry detergent. You want to clean your clothes without irritating your skin or your vagina. Now they have good detergents that are appropriate for sensitive skin that don't have a bunch of dyes and perfumes in them. A good one on the market that has a fresh clean scent is Arm and Hammer laundry detergent for sensitive skin with a fresh scent that has baking soda in it. That is the one I buy it cleans my clothes well and makes them smell nice without irritating my skin and it is safe to use for the whole family.
Best wishes to you.
Oh ya, blood doesn't bother me.
One day I was giving him oral pleasure, at least I tried to my best, he pulled it out of my mouth, forced me on the ground with legs wide open and entered me without foreplay. I guess his equipment was big anyway but for me as a young girl it was like getting paled and when he finished I had blood all over.
It took a while until I could receive him without pain and blood. I also always bled when he took me the first times from behind anally and I got scared every time I saw it. I couldn’t talk to my mom so I lived scared for quite a long time.