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jrc11
jrc11

The last couple of times I have had sex with my boyfriend i havent been able to finish and he has but i now i feel this pressure that i have to which makes me not want to have sex to begin with. any tips to help take the edge off or anything that could help with this. 

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Hi and welcome to these boards! I saw your other post and you two have recently gotten back together and he slept with someone else while you two were split up. Sex for women happens first in our brains. Are you still thinking about the other girl he was with? And maybe comparing yourself to what she might have been like, etc? You do seem unsure of the relationship, according to your other post. I do think your sex life will get back to normal, once you have figured out those other issues that are concerning you.

Be patient with yourself and relax, clear your mind best you can, and give it a little time. Hope this helps.
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