twice a day is fine, more than 4 and you won't have energy for your partner IMHO.

If it adversly effects the relationship its out of control. Meaning that if you have a healthy sex life with your partner and you still need more then there is nothing wrong with masterbation IMHO. However if your partner is wanting more and you cant give it , because you either masturbate to much or would rather do it then spend time with them then you have a problem or the relationship is majorly flawed and needs to be re-though.

i think any amount is fine as long as there is still intimacy and there is no boundaries being crossed (i.e. cybering, cheating, sending erotic emails behind spouses back, excesses porn usage, etc)

I briefly dated a man who was impotent when we got together because he admitted he had masturbated 3 times the day before. I was so disgusted I never saw the man again.

Yeah I just am confused by the whole situation as I'm newly married and don't know what boundaries should be there when it comes to self pleasure vs pleasing her. We have regular inter course and the sex is wonderful but sometimes I feel like I like pleasing myself more and sometimes I find her to be a better stimulus than myself. She is wonderful and I don't ever have a problem giving it to her of she needs it unless I've had a long work day and am just exhausted from the day.

I wasn't sure if I should even have been thinking about self pleasure having a relationship like this and wasn't aware if porn or outside sources to turn me on could or should be a factor at all. I don't want to cheat and could not do it but I am known to be a natural flirt with the opposite sex since that's how I have been most of my life.

Really just getting to know what is healthy and unhealthy in a new level of relationship. I'm loving the advice so far and would love to hear anyone else's opinions or anything else anyone has on there mind about this topic.

it sounds like you just need to sit down and talk with your wife about the situation and what is okay with HER.

Why do you think it can create issues morally? Is it something that is being done 24/7?

I agree with viv . And I don't think talking to her about it is needed , I don't think it's a problem and telling her will make it one or cause one . As long as you are pleasing her then what is the problem ?

If you're the one masturbating all the time, Silenties, keep it in your pants and learn to let your seed build up for her. It'll make for gigantic cum explosions when you do fuck her. Wanking too much makes you look like a monkey more than a man in her eyes.

Kool, your choice of words.... Always amuse me..

yeah all these factors are important I know. I do need to speak with her about all this. I might just masturbate and have sexy thoughts about random people like all "average" guys do but i was just wondering at what point was too much and all that stuff.

I probably do masturbate too much and need to find alternatives to pass the time. Playing my music ALWAYS helps of course.

I'm with Koolman, save it up for her. Plus it will be more intense for you during climax.

Hey if he does only once a day and still can give it and please than thats fine with me i thought most guys did it once a day anyways lol

Nope I don't do it every day. 3 times a week is the usual for me. I think that if you're addicted to porn and you got caught a bunch doing it while watching porn, then she has a right to be upset with you. Porn can be good and bad for a relationship. Usually bad in my own experience. I try to enjoy what I have when in a relationship. If she wants to watch porn then I'd be all for it.

Ive come to the conclusion that I need to focus my free time on better things than sex, sex, sex & save up my man juice for her. I'd be able to have sex multiple times a day if that were possible but we tend to do it 3-4 times a week so Ill just have to learn to have patience.

Its hard when my cock gets aroused by so many little sexual things all the time too. If I chose to avoid looking at porn than ill save myself from feeling like I have to always touch myself even if I natural get aroused like 24/7 anyway.