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If I could find someone who possesses both qualities, in a physically slender package, I'd have no need to look elsewhere for a relationship. Sadly, so far it hasn't presented itself. I know women who are sweet, and, even if they find me attractive in a romantic way, when it comes to talking about or doing sex, they simply lack the vocabulary or don't want to go there. And I know women who are complete party animals, with no sweetness there (that I know of anyway...maybe I just don't know them very well, but they do a great job of cloaking their hearts in anger) whatsoever. Frustrating.
Or, if you don't get the legs, its settling for less, and you'll cheat on HER too? Jeeze dude. Take a look in the mirror (literally and figuratively) and take a stock on yourself. Do you think YOU meet EVERY qualification for a woman? What if a woman told you, well, I like you, but I swear if I don't have a guy with a full head of hair I'm probably gonna cheat on you.
This is the difference between what stimulates lust in some men and what stimulates lust in some women. For some women, love is associated. For some men, the physical and visual has to be there. Why do you think there are so many "he's addicted to internet porn" or "he's cheating" or "our sex life is 'nil" posts on this board? I can love but not be lustfully attracted.
For the record, for anyone who cares, yes, I don't have a full head of hair, but I do have a slender bod and slender legs. I'm looking for my counterpart, even if she's bald LOL.
To the ladies I offended, I must say your passion excites me. Ah-hah! So I AM stimulated by other things besides looks! Ha!
Maybe a certain amount of healthy anger is what I'm really looking for in a relationship.
it's just rather offensive the way that you talk about us big girls sometimes. I mean, sure, I'd love to have a rock hard body...but for some people it's just not practical or possible, but that doesn't make us any less of a woman.
And, before you ask, I'm not slender. Never have been. Have a large (though short) bone structure AND I'm overweight. The last time I was even close to this weight, I gave birth. And I can promise you, I'm not pregnant now! Getting back to Delaware Guy's point, let's not worry about folks who aren't interested in us and pay attention to the ones who ARE! Great advice from our northern neighbor. Again.
that's what HE prefers...so let it be....
not everyone is universal in what they are attracted to....to each their own....
someone says something that strikes a nerve and out comes the posse....
lets play nice in the sandbox....
some men like em slim...some dont....
Kool...keep looking.....if that's what you like...then go for it
If you don't prefer a woman with any meat on her, that's fine. I don't think you should "settle." BUT the fact that you're talking about the physical being so important that they HAVE to maintain slender legs or whatever in order for you to remain faithful is a problem in any relationship. People change. Men too! And not to sound catty or anything, but the "slender" department doesn't seem to be working out too good for you. Not saying good find the biggest woman you can find; just check into somebody who isn't stick thin.