*raising both hands high to ensure she is counted*

^5 Alone and Kate!... I don't think he could handle one of us BIG GIRLS! But if he did... I doubt if he would ever say that stuff again. He might not be able to say anything; we might squash him or smoother him with our boobs. LMAO

laughing at KIT-Honey, you are worth counting twice! A wondeful woman both in and out of the bedroom or errr at least that's what I was told.

You don't have to settle for someone that you don't think has all the qualities you are looking for... however, don't be so judgemental of others. Get to know someone better and you may find that the differences you share are EXACTLY what you want and need.

Kool, you like what you like, don't let yourself get beat down. If you don't like bigger women, feel free to exclude them from your life. I'm willing to let you have all the women with lust and sweetness in a physically slender package.

I know this is really no different, and I'm sure there are slender women who will want to set me straight, but my preference is thick and busty. While most women would not find a guy like me attractive, I'm not really concerned with them. I'm more interested in the few that do.

In the end, what really matters is what is between her ears, and I do meet and see women outside of my physical preference. Lust can come from connection too. But the overpowering feeling comes from attraction on many levels, physical included.

I like the chemistry aspect too, and that gleam of unbridled lust in a lover's eye comes from a place inside of us that doesn't succumb to reason or political correctness.

So, in the spirit of unreasonable political incorrectness, I'm telling the bigger girls you won't squash me and I dare you to smother me with your boobs!

Lisa, KIT, and ldmay, you guys are absolutely right. You too kate. Sheesh...every other week its something or another about skinny chicks. That's great, thats what you and others prefer, but did you ever stop and think that it might make you come off as completely vapid? Because frankly, it does. And you're not the only one...guys all over that act like curvy girls like myself don't even exist or stand a chance at being something other than a friend because we're engineered differently and don't feel the need to induce eating disorders to fit your little mold...well, screw them quite frankly. Actually, I like when they are forward about it, because right off the bat I can tell that they're shallow and can't look past appearance no matter how well I meet their other requirements, and as such, I certainly don't want anything to do with them.

Sorry if I'm being a bitch, but this is something that has really rubbed me the wrong way for a long ass time on this board. If we're having a thread about what particular qualities you find most attractive, cool, then sure throw it out there. But you gotta wonder if maybe the fact that you're so hung up on the "slender package" thing isn't exactly what is preventing you from finding the girl of your dreams, because she can sense that you're into her for her body, no matter what else you might say. Remember, skinny chicks can (and often do) get heavier in later life...but inner beauty only truly finds its voice as time wears on.

*Smothers Delawareguy with a pair of 48Ds. lol

I think that being picky is fine. However if thats the reason why your still single then you shouldn't bitch about being single.

My man is big and hairy and lacks any dress sense whatsoever. The kind of guy who is every girls 'friend' but they never actually dated him. That's fine with me because it means that he's all mine and has never picked up any bad habits from anyone else. Frankly I've always been more attracted to people who don't fit into socities perception of what is attractive. Because it's harder for them to compete for attention they have to develop personalities.

I think if we don't find the partners that we are looking for then maybe we should look at our own physical attritubutes and see if we are they male epitome of what a female would look for us and if we have the right then to request our lady to be the stereotypical female stick.
Personally skinny chicks don't eat, I like my food and i am happy with my size and other men seem to notice that i am comfortable in my body and they seem to find that attractive. If a man was so shallow to tell me to loose weight to fit into his percepttion of what is typically beautiful in a female i would tell him to have a good look at himself before he gave me advice on how to look.
It annoys me too, that even in dating adds men always look for " slender" women. I just read the adds to see how shallow some of them are. If i ever was looking for a datei would certaintly not ever consider dating any man who required a " slender" female for romance, company or maybe more.

Bigger women need loving too.

Lisa, I like the way you think!

As far as dating sites go, I can tell you many women +/- 8 years of my age list thin/average/athletic as their prefered body types.

I know body size is not what really matters for being with someone to spend time with. The problem is, I know myself well enough by now to know what bugs my eyes out, along with other things.

I know it's a shallow aspect of me, but I am what I am and I know what gets my motor running.

Koolman can make the same statement, and the fact that excludes some women is not really the issue. I gave up trying to have everyone consider me for the person inside. Whatever the reasons, some will like me, most will not. I don't care how many women feel I'm not acceptable. I choose to limit myself to the ones that do.

I suppose that the real issue most of us women have here is not the fact that he prefers one body type over another...it is the way that he words things. EVERY comment he makes has something to do with a girls phsyique, and it gets old.

There is a way to make your point tastefully, then drop it...beyond that, it becomes redundant, and quite frankly it is hurtful.

Guess I'm just lucky that my man loves every single one of my curves. And he realizes that there is much more to a woman than her body!

SIZE DOSE NOT MATTER TO ME , THERE HAS TO BE AN ATTRACTION NO DOUBT BUT THE SIZE OF A GAL SHOULD NOT BE A REQUIREMENT,YOUR GETTING HUNG UP ON LOOKS AND NOT THE PERSON,JUST LOOK AT HOW GORGEOUS THESE GALS ARE HERE,THERE SIZE SHOULD NOT MATTER AT ALL

Ladies who don't want to be called "sweet". What WOULD you like to be called? How DO you want to be treated? Never mind, I get it; gotta get in touch with the passionate animal within you.

Ladies, I know there is a lot going on under the surface of your skin, and the fact is, I do find a lot of physical types attractive. I guess my thinking is that I'll eventually stray if I'm not with a lean pair of legs...don't want to stray, therefore...