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Lust and Sweetness

koolman
koolman
If I could find someone who possesses both qualities, in a physically slender package, I'd have no need to look elsewhere for a relationship. Sadly, so far it hasn't presented itself. I know women who are sweet, and, even if they find me attractive in a romantic way, when it comes to talking about or doing sex, they simply lack the vocabulary or don't want to go there. And I know women who are complete party animals, with no sweetness there (that I know of anyway...maybe I just don't know them very well, but they do a great job of cloaking their hearts in anger) whatsoever. Frustrating.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hmm,mabye you are setting your sights too high.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, from this woman's perspective, being considered 'sweet' is going to be something of a passion-killer. Just seems to me like a pat on the head somehow, even if that's not the way you intended it.
If you mean that you're looking for a woman who can be honest and open about her feelings, I think that's only ever going to happen with time and building up a lot of trust.
koolman
koolman
stephen: Yeah. Just look for Miss Right Now.

Phoenix: Yeah, and it is taking time. I get impatient. Good things don't happen overnight.
koolman
koolman
OK, so let's look for a sexually confident woman, who can articulate exactly how she wants me to please her, who can talk dirty, and who also desires spiritual warmth from me. I can deliver.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OH and Kool-don't forget to add that she has to be in a physically slender pacakge.
kidsintowe03
kidsintowe03
alot of the women you describe above koolman..don't come in the "barbie flavor". I do not come in the slender package but I can very much articulate what I want when I want and how I want it....and when you are referring to a woman as being "sweet" I agree with Phoenix, very much a pat on the head..my dad calls me sweet..I would never want to hear that from a man I am sleeping with..maybe try the words caring & considerate instead
deleted_user
deleted_user
For me .. I do want a lady who is kind and caring .. and .. I'm not nearly as concerned about the package ..

I have found, by looking for a lady who can turn on my mind .. the rest always follows ..

I wud never turn down a lady who met my heart criteria .. if she did not come in a slender package ..

Life is to short .. to let the good ones get away ..

At least .. that's my perspecitive ..
deleted_user
deleted_user
from my perspective Kool...you put entirely too much emphasis on physical appearance.

What is so wrong with a very intelligent, caring, open minded, articulate, sexual woman with a little bit of MEAT on her bones?

I just don't get why someone has to be anorexic to be attractive?

Maybe if you would just give a full figured girl a chance, you would see that we have a whole lot to offer.
Tray34
Tray34
Amen,ldmay..
whiskeytangofoxtrot
whiskeytangofoxtrot
What you want does exist. I promise.
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
Koolman, I have been on this site about the same amount of time that you have. Since I have been on here,I have noticed that every month or so you make comments in regard to you liking slender women opposed to larger women. We know that you don't care for heavy women. That is fine, we all have our preferences. I am not nuts about blond balding men but that wouldn't keep me from seeing a man's inner beauty. I think you would be much happier if you tried looking at the entire person instead of just the package. Just my opinion.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ray has got the key...make it happen in the mind first; heart, body and soul will follow...you are going to miss out on a lot of great ladies if you are judging by looks first...and if you make it happen in her mind - by making her feel truly accepted and loved, and beautiful, then she will open up and show you that lust you're looking for...women can do "sweet" standing on our heads...you want to see fire, give a girl a reason to light up...JMO...good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hear hear Lisa!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh if you like this then check out the "You might also like..." suggestions, listed below the replies to this thread. I was offered three Koolman threads including a debate on fat chicks - I can say that because I am proud to be one!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's funny-when I posted my little comment, I felt like I was being really grouchy. But, just to help out our friend Kool-raise your hand, if you are a beautiful, sensual, sexy woman. One that can discuss their passions with words, and then follow up by giving their men some of the most sexual experiences imagniable. Women who understand how to be ladies outside of the bedroom and real sexual partners in the bedroom. Come on-stand up and represent the true modern woman.