No I am too sexual and no girl has been able to keep up with me even the ones that say they can... But i know that my exes have loved me more then anything else until i left the first (not fo have less sex then i would like) and the other passed away = (

here goes, at the beginning lots of couples sexual encounters seem to be vast and numerous, as time and complacency tend to sometimes do, same cpls, who couldn't wait to get panties down, now through the complexities of life; a.k.a. children, work, economic struggles, they seem to lose their interest in bedroom activities. Does that mean they don't love each other, certainly not. Human perception seems to me to instantly blame ourselves for the lack of sex, to fat, to tired,to much to do. Then we decide love is no longer on the agenda. Often we lump love and sex together and granted a great love would surely have great sex included. If we could just dispose of the responsibilities, disregard our own frailities and simply go back to a time when getting panties down was a main concern would that make our love life better? Tough chore for sure, to separate life from our own emotional and sexual wants, needs and desires. Heres my wish to all, just take yourselves to that point when love and sex collide at least a cple times a week and for those times remember what it was like to enjoy one and the other with out concerns.
Old saying: never turn down a shot-a-leg, it might be your last

I think you can have sex with someone and not love them. However I know what you are talking about Tray about not feeling wanted if your spouse doesnt want to have sex with you or doesnt want it alot. It can make one feel less loves and less wanted. Can even make one feel less desireable, fat or something like that. You are a great mom and wife though Tray and your husband is lucky to have you!!

thanks sweetie...

This is a very sensitive subject for me, as many of you know.

I don't know if you've heard of the five love languages. There are 5 basic ways people express love. And there is usually a major predominant one that each person relates best with.

Well, mine is physical touch. So, yes, sex is very equivalent with love to me. (If I'm in that type of relationship, and not just a fwb or fuck buddy.)

Everyone is different. But I will never settle again. Yes, I am sexual. Period. But since I need that to feel loved, thats why I will never ever settle again.

I can cuddle and be loving in that sense, but there is a side of me that, yes, feels the need to be sexual to fully express my love for another, not only for my own selfish personal reasons, i.e to feel msculine, but for hers as well (if she wanted a cuddly pet, she'd get a dog or cat). Am I totally fulfilling HER? So, in a human relationship, yes, I feel that sex needs to be present to fully express love for one another.

And, yes, distractions do intrude, and that's why it's always important to make time for sexual and romantic love. It's difficult when financial troubles ensue and people must work more and more to simply keep a roof over our heads in this "changing" global economy. And when kids come along, forget it. Sex goes by the wayside in the interest of living vicariously through those extra mouths to feed. When is there time?

There definitely needs to be some "downsizing" of some of a couple's dreams to encourage others. Life is a balancing act. Live in a small apartment instead of the huge house. Own one car instead of two (if that is possible). Eat in instead of eat out. An upsampling DVD player instead of a blu-ray. Target instead of Gucci. Sinking beneath this physical, material world to enjoy true spiritual delights (if spiritual delights are what two people are truly after, which it sounds like all of us are).