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Tray34
Tray34
Do you measure love with sex?What I mean is if you are a very sexual person and your mate is not,and you dont have sex as often as you would like do you feel that that means he/she doesnt completely love you?do you think you would feel more loved if you had more sex?
Tray34
Tray34
Is he hard to talk to?Mine is.he just doesnt understand.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yup! he just doesn't understand my perspective.


or he says "well you knew all these things about me before you married me, so you knew what you were getting into"

blah...whatever!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, the almost complete lack of a sex drive was a big part of my last marriage break up. She made me feel so undesired, and i spent more and more time in the gym, nothing. Sex was priority zero to her.

Now i'm geting into great shape and women are noticing me more and i'm having my partners who enjoy sex as much as i do. So now i know that it wasn't me, it was the STBX. She would say shit like "Yeah, i desire you." but then turn right back around to the fucking computer !

NOW when i'm with someone and i show affection towards them, they RESPOND in kind and it feels GREAT !
deleted_user
deleted_user
thats what i'm afraid of LH...that the lack of affection and communication is going to ruin my marraige...i worry about it constantly.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do you have an active sex life ? You're having communication problems ? Our other big prob was that we didn't live together first and she didn't disclose the full extent of her depression and meds. And i'm a VERY affectionate person. I actually have to WARN my ladyfriends lol
Tray34
Tray34
Yep..You know how I am..I dont like to talk ..Blah blah blah...same thing girl...
and like you I am scared it will ruin our marriage and I am trying to prevent that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Kinda opposite for me...my hubby have a good sex life, but sometimes i feel that the "love" is lacking...something we def need to improve on
deleted_user
deleted_user
we do have an active sex life, just not quite as active as i want it. I attribute some of that to our age difference (he's 13 years older than me)

as far as communication, i guess thats my fault, but i don't know how to overcome it. i don't talk about anything...then it completely blindsides him when i actually do voice my opinion...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Have you ever considered couples therapy ?
deleted_user
deleted_user
i've thought about it, he's not really open to that kind of thing...i'm not ruling it out as an option though. i love him wholeheartedly, and i don't want something that can be prevented to cause it to end...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just stopping in to say Hey y'all! Miss you guys.
deleted_user
deleted_user
miss you too mcar!! how've you been??
Tray34
Tray34
Hey mcar...Love ya.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hiya Lovelies! Been good, busy...hoping that I will have some more time to stop by once the kiddies start school again this Monday.

So what's new with everyone? I see lots of new faces around here.
firespinner
firespinner
love is not measure in sex for me, i mean i have a high drive and so did my partner but things in life have a great influence on this, stress etc so i cant measure love by sex, i know we can have great sex and go through a period of shit sex and i hope it gets better lol but i love him and i know he loves me coz he can accept me for a being a bitch when im stressed, ill tolerate his crap too and to me that is love maybe not described well but there we go x