I have been on a couple of dating cites, Plenty Of Fish and meetme being amoung my favorites. All I am looking for his a friend that I can get to know and just enjoy her company and see where it goes from there. I have made some friends and I have met some posible love interists. What really concerns me are the sexual advances that I get from a couple of the women that I find very attractive. I am very afraid of a sexual relationship on the first date. If they are so willing to give there selves to me, how many times have they done this before? It's true I am a flirt and I love sex but I am horrified of STDs. That causes me to pause and I go home and take a cold shower. Sometimes it's very hard to leave. I have actually had to do this a couple of times recently. I post that I am looking for a friendship first and then maybe something more as time passes. I look for women seeking long term relationships thinking that they want to take things at a normal pace, but usually all I get is some woman that wants to jump past the dating and jump on me. I am definitely not used to this and I feel like all they want is sex or they are chasing something that they had with someone else that they loved like an ex.
I didn't have much of a social life before I started online dating and I only hang out with women that I have dated online. I sort of distance myself from 2 or 3 women that wanted to have sex with me. They are attractive and I actually like them but I get to thinking about STDs and how many men that they must have slept with and it deters me from wanting to have anything to do with them. I started dating this year. It was 10 years sense I dated before then. I don't know if things have changed so much that there aren't any women that want to actually find a meaningful relationship or am I just being a prude. Should I just let it happen? I really did want to have sex with them, but I just got scared because it happened so fast. I feel like a woman lol. It seems like roles have been reversed.