Healthy Sex Support Group
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I have been on a couple of dating cites, Plenty Of Fish and meetme being amoung my favorites. All I am looking for his a friend that I can get to know and just enjoy her company and see where it goes from there. I have made some friends and I have met some posible love interists. What really concerns me are the sexual advances that I get from a couple of the women that I find very attractive. I am very afraid of a sexual relationship on the first date. If they are so willing to give there selves to me, how many times have they done this before? It's true I am a flirt and I love sex but I am horrified of STDs. That causes me to pause and I go home and take a cold shower. Sometimes it's very hard to leave. I have actually had to do this a couple of times recently. I post that I am looking for a friendship first and then maybe something more as time passes. I look for women seeking long term relationships thinking that they want to take things at a normal pace, but usually all I get is some woman that wants to jump past the dating and jump on me. I am definitely not used to this and I feel like all they want is sex or they are chasing something that they had with someone else that they loved like an ex.
I didn't have much of a social life before I started online dating and I only hang out with women that I have dated online. I sort of distance myself from 2 or 3 women that wanted to have sex with me. They are attractive and I actually like them but I get to thinking about STDs and how many men that they must have slept with and it deters me from wanting to have anything to do with them. I started dating this year. It was 10 years sense I dated before then. I don't know if things have changed so much that there aren't any women that want to actually find a meaningful relationship or am I just being a prude. Should I just let it happen? I really did want to have sex with them, but I just got scared because it happened so fast. I feel like a woman lol. It seems like roles have been reversed.
I didn't have much of a social life before I started online dating and I only hang out with women that I have dated online. I sort of distance myself from 2 or 3 women that wanted to have sex with me. They are attractive and I actually like them but I get to thinking about STDs and how many men that they must have slept with and it deters me from wanting to have anything to do with them. I started dating this year. It was 10 years sense I dated before then. I don't know if things have changed so much that there aren't any women that want to actually find a meaningful relationship or am I just being a prude. Should I just let it happen? I really did want to have sex with them, but I just got scared because it happened so fast. I feel like a woman lol. It seems like roles have been reversed.
Your girl is out there somewhere.
There are a lot of things to consider...if you put your looking for friends and see what happens, to me that would read your pretty much just looking to get laid with nothing serious. Because thats what most guys using that as search criteria are looking for.
Maybe these girls have not been with anyone in a while and are super horny lol thats maybe why they created a profile.
Are you looking for long term relationship once u get to know someone? Put that. So they dont think your gonna hit and run.
There are going to be men in their pasts. You have to let go of your fears there or youll be single a long time. But you (once getting to know someone) can when your both ready to roll in the hay, go get tested for each other n show each other the results.
* but google any results before flipping out. I got tested and had "vaginitus" ...which was a bacterial infection (similar to a yeast infection) which is not an std and is common. *
Use protection. Period. That will prevent most stds. N the ones it might not prevent should be pretty visable ( red sores around and on the vaginal area *herpes*)...etc...
Good luck
Oh and PS
I talked online with my bf for about 3.5 weeks before we met
We had sex the night we met
And continue to almost six yrs later. Ya just never know how its gonna work out
They aren't quality that you are looking for.
We mutually agree that we like what we see. That's not why I like her so much but physical attraction is important. I feel like this is going to be the start of something great, even if it's just a friendship. I am very scared of things going way to fast for us though. We both need to work on slowing the pace. I am so scared because I know that she can hurt me. I tried to look at like I am just going to make a friend but I feel a connection with her. I can't help it.
Remember, she can't make you happy. She can only add to your happiness.
When someone is lonely, they tend to grab on fast to someone.
I'm glad to hear that you will be cautious.