Woman who put man in doghouse, soon find him in cathouse.

while i can say that infidelity has been a temptation because of our lack of physical intimacy, i will not cheat. What i will do is manual relief. Also, i know that this is the opposite of healthy sex, and that the issues from that one statement alone belong in a few other categories.

not sure the whole background on your relationship....but this is one reason why i feel it's important to have sex BEFORE marriage.

i think what you need to do is talk with her and find out why she feels this way. maybe you're not doing things the way she likes.

maybe even try a sex therapist.

2 years into marriage did not have any sex. The rest of 5 years had crapy sex. on 8 th year of marriage I completely changed my opinion about cheating after one Friday he said that he might be will be having sex the next Friday. If you married first year and already have such problems, do not repeat my mistake and just run and find yourself normal woman till you got attached to this one and got property and children together.

I have to go with Reveal on this one.
NEVER buy a car without test driving it.

goes for both men and woman. Try it before you BUY IT.

I really feel for you Jimmy, that just sucks. That is a harsh, screwed up thing to say, and I'm startled that someone would say that to a spouse.

That said, I heard the same type of thing from my EX while were in the stages of divorce.

I'm going to go out there and say it. Leave her and find someone you are sexually compatible with.

but... yeah... try counselling first.

What's her reasons for not wanting to have sex with you?

I agree with the others, sexual compatibility is important in a relationship and I personally don't believe in getting married until liviing together at least 2 years so you know you're compatible sexually and in other ways.

Couples counseling, sex therapy, give them a try and if nothing works you have two choices, accept that your relationship will be sexless/close to sexless or choose to move on from it.

I feel for you. Rejection hurts. There is no excuse for her to talk like that. I have also been tempted to cheat cuz my needs aren't met.

Could you give a little more background info?

yep, i agree. sex BEFORE marriage. a bad sex life or lack of sex is grounds for divorce for me. dont get me wrong, there are definitely times i am very tired and really not in the mood and hubs unintentionally guilts me into doing the deed and im not exactly thrilled. but i would NEVER be so mean to him about it.

Jimmy, if you want sympathy, you will get it here, if you want someone to tell you that you (or she) did something wrong, you will get that here too.

If you want to find out the problem in your marriage, discuss it with her and or a therapist. Don't turn your back on the situation and turn to the Internet for help.

I wish you much luck with your dilemma

Counseling or divorce. Make an appointment soon, because this isn't going to end well.

She should also get a physical, because depression or hormone problems could be contributing.

Sorry to hear this, pal. Yet another marriage casualty?

Well, the "test the waters before you dive in" theory doesn't apply here: You're already there, already married, so let's make some educated guesses to get to the bottom of this.

Why are you so loathsome to her? Is marriage not all she thought it would be? Is she just depressed about life in general?

Do you love her? Enough to attempt to make things work for you both, as in counseling.
Do you love yourself? Enough to know when the point of no accptance is reached.

Lots of good advice here, but eventually you will choose to be happy with her or without her.

IMO, a sexless marriage can make a persons life a living hell.

And a LOVEless marriage can make a person's, or two people's, lives a living hell.

Mate, I think its time to put your big boy pants back on.

I just bet if bloke said something as insulting as, "If i can somehow force myself to have sex with you"

He would be very quick get a smack in the mouth.

I am not advocating that you attack your wife here, but I am saying that its bloody time you stood up to her.

She is saying shit like this to you because she feels that she can and get away with it. In other words, she is disrespecting you and this is completely unacceptable.

How you stand up to her is intirely your call but you need to do it and you need to do it now.

Take back your nuts mate.

Mick

Time for you to say something to her. Ask her why, go to counseling, talk, talk and more talk to get it straightened out or tell her you are leaving. You have a decision to make and no one else can to it for you.