I would get some toys and work on pleasuring yourself...see what does it for you. It is kinda hard to tell someone what you like if you don't know yourself.

I have been playing with toys for a few months now but I haven't noticed a difference.

Too many years of society saying to women they should not have pleasure, that it is agains't the moral code of the gods. Don't believe it. Life is too short as it is to not have the pleasure of the body as it was made.

How to Have Multiple Female Orgasms

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By eHow Contributing Writer

For many women, just having one orgasm can be a problem. But for those lucky enough to easily experience orgasm, there is no reason that you can't have multiple orgasms every time you have sex. Use these tips to relax and enjoy sex.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy Instructions

Step 1 Know yourself. Through masturbation, you can learn a lot about your body and where your points of interest lie. It's difficult to find positions and tell your partner how to help you achieve regular mind-blowing orgasms if you don't even know how to do it yourself.

Step 2 Relax. Your vagina and all your other hot spots will be tensing on their own as they become stimulated. You have to let your mind go and stop thinking about anything else at those moments. Concentrate on your body and how it feels and let it do what it's indeed to do.

Step 3 Spend enough time in foreplay to get your juices going. Effective foreplay sets up a woman's body to operate for quite a while, giving you enough time during the intercourse to achieve multiple orgasms. Enjoy one or two even before penetration and you can pile up the orgasm during your one sexual adventure.

Step 4 Keep your body in position after your first orgasm, whether you have your legs wrapped around your partner or you are on your knees. Don't shift too much so as not to break the action. Another ripple will begin shortly if you continue with the movement and flow that brought on the first orgasm.

Step 5 Use lotions, music and scented candles to maintain a romantic atmosphere. If the environment is set and you are prepared, your partner will not be in a big hurry either and will be willing to spend a little extra time so that you can enjoy multiple orgasms.

So what does it feel like when you are fixing to orgasm, and when you are orgasming?

its kinda like launching a sail boat, you use a little bit of effort at first, self stimulation then let go and let the wind take you....you guide and let go at the same time. Its a great ride.

perhaps you are living in a constant orgasm 24 hours a day.... and so its just normal...:) (smile)

go for it... I say..launch the boat. oh and also dont think about it.

to be honest i have never orgasmed while in the act i usually have to do myself or have him munch thats the only way i have ever oragasmed

I noticed when younger that I would get to where it felt really good and then I would stop because it felt too intense. One time (while looking at a pic of Sly Stallone as "Rocky" no less) I just forced myself to keep going instead of stopping as usual when it got too intense. I ended up climaxing and THEN I knew what it felt like ... and wanted more! I ended up with a 4 or 5 times a day "habit" for awhile there!

Close your eyes.Think happy thoughts.Maybe watch some porn.Find a better lover?Most of all relax.It took my wife for ever to have one but once she did there was no coming back.Experiment!!!!!!!!

I do get a very intense feeling when I am playing but I cant get any further than that ... I think there is something wrong with me.

i dont think there is something wrong with u at all some women never climax from sex and sometimes the only way is through stimulating the clitoris

i found this LONG areticle it might help u some

When Dr Stuart Meloy put an electrode into a woman's spine in an attempt to cure her back pain, he inadvertently gave her an orgasm. Meloy had invented a device that would give hope to the thousands of woman who aren't able to climax, a form of sexual dysfunction known as anorgasmia. Some women develop this condition, and it may be temporary; for others an orgasm has never featured in their sexual realm.


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the science bit
While the male orgasm is a relatively uncomplicated 'push button response', it has proved much harder to unlock the secrets of the female climax.

Scientists have generally agreed that there are four stages to sexual reaction, starting with the arousal or rising sexual excitement stage. This is followed by a plateau or heightened state the stage where some women get stuck. For those who do orgasm, the third stage, this is followed by a fourth and final relaxation phase.

During the period of sexual arousal, there are several changes in a woman's body: her heart pumps faster and her breathing gets heavier; hormones such as endorphins are pumped round the brain and body; and blood is pumped to the genitals to create the tension that will ultimately trigger a muscular spasm. This spasm results in the pelvic floor muscles contracting between five and 15 times at 0.8-second intervals this is the orgasm.

Rather than the simple physical response that causes a man to orgasm, a network of emotional, physical and circumstantial responses are interacting when a woman climaxes. With mind and body inextricably involved, there is far more scope for something to go wrong.

causes medical or mental?
Causes of anorgasmia are many and varied as much to do with psychological and environmental factors as the body.

There are sometimes medical reasons for anorgasmia, such as nerve damage to the pelvic area, or conditions that interfere with blood flow to the clitoris. Certain drugs alter sexual response too, some cancer treatments for example.

However, Dr Ditza Katz from the Women's Therapy Center in New York believes physical causes of anorgasmia are rare. The most common factors originate in a woman's mind, which she says 'filters sexual desire and physical or sexual reactions'. Examples Dr Katz gives are a woman's dislike of a partner's sexual style accompanied by the inability to express those feelings, or a preoccupation with other thoughts during sex. 'Once the mind has such a negative filter, orgasm will not happen.'

Other psychological factors preventing orgasm include:



Relationship problems tensions and unresolved issues in the relationship can transfer to the bedroom.
Low self-esteem or negative body image these preoccupations can prevent a woman relaxing enough during sex to reach orgasm.
Mood disorders or mental health issues, such as depression either the symptoms themselves or the medication that treats them can cause sexual dysfunction.
Shame or guilt about sexuality negative messages in childhood or a strict upbringing can leave a woman believing she's not supposed to enjoy sex.
An experience of sexual abuse or trauma unresolved feelings can inhibit responsiveness to sexual pleasure.

As a woman becomes preoccupied with climaxing, the more difficult it can become for her to reach the relaxed and comfortable state that the elusive orgasm requires. It's a 'watched pot never boils' scenario.

effects
According to Dr Katz, being unable to reach orgasm can have 'devastating effects' on a number of levels, including 'a negative perception of self as a woman and sexual partner, feelings of inadequacy and of being different to any other 'normal' woman'. These issues can have a negative psychological effect beyond the bedroom.

When a woman is unable to orgasm, it can significantly affect her partner too. Partners of anorgasmic woman can feel inadequate, unloved and often guilty that they are able to enjoy satisfying sex when their partner doesn't.

A woman may try to avoid sexual situations, as she's conscious of the negative emotions unfulfilling sex can bring, and therefore withdraw from her partner. Withholding affection in case her partner takes it as a cue for sex, she can send mixed messages and trigger a spiralling breakdown of communication.

But inability to orgasm doesn't always have overwhelming consequences. As Dr Julie Beattie, a GP and member of the Institute of Psychosexual Medicine notes, 'While there are those for whom no orgasm means the end of a relationship or great personal distress, there are those who seem able to have a satisfying sex life without. Some couples seem to manage, adapt or overcome the problem without help.'

Ability to climax can improve naturally with age and many woman who've experienced anorgasmia in their 20s are able to orgasm without problems in later life.

A number of medications can inadvertently affect sex drive. Certain drugs used to treat depression such as Prozac, Paxil and Zoloft as well as sedatives like Xanax and anti-hypertensive drugs can lower libido. Excess alcohol or chronic use of drugs such as marijuana, cocaine and heroin can not only impair performance, but also deaden desire.


so what can be done?
With such a plethora of potential causes and scientists and doctors struggling to understand how physiological and emotional factors relate finding a 'cure' for anorgasmia is a an ambitious task.

Research into drugs to treat women's sexual problems is on the increase, particularly since the arrival of treatments such as Viagra for men. There are trials underway but at the moment feedback is not promising. Again this is probably down to the complex nature of female sexual response, which makes it unlikely that a single clear-cut treatment will be effective for all women. Dr Meloy's 'Orgasmatron' was only able to help one in three of the women to achieve orgasm in his small-scale trial.

while the drugs don't work
Taking into account the likelihood of psychological or emotional reasons for the problem, sex therapy (or psychosexual counselling as its often known) is thought to be an effective way to address anorgasmia.

A therapist will help identify the factors likely to be preventing orgasm whether they're physical, psychological, stem from your current relationship or past. The therapist may discuss a plan of exercises to try, with your partner if appropriate, to help you grow in self-awareness. These days many sex therapists will advocate practising on your own exploring your body to find out what you need to do, then showing your partner. Some women find alternative therapies like hypnosis helpful too.

who to turn to
Your GP can tell you where to find the nearest NHS psychosexual service. But if you don't feel comfortable discussing orgasm issues with your GP, speak to your local family planning clinic. Relationship counselling organisation Relate also offers sex therapy for a means-based fee. Or if you're looking for a private therapist, good places to start are the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy or the Institute of Psychosexual Medicine


maybe some of that will help

try changing to a dif toy!

You may be afraid of messing the bed or couch. My one girlfriend years ago could not orgasm in her own bed but in a hotel no problem. When we put a couple towels down on the bed in case all of a sudden she could orgasm liek crazy in her own bed, the towels were soaked but it worked.

I guess it is kinda subconcious you know, like who wants to sleep in the wet spot after sex. LOL.

Give it a try and see if it helps.

There is nothing wrong with you sweetie! One day you will be feeling that intense feeling and will find yourself letting go ... and it will happen. And anyway ... have fun practicing. ;)

You really need to have a glass of wine, some chocolate, and a collection of toys and objects from around the house. A bic pen, a lipstick tube, figure out what works for you. I can really put my man to work, "Suck here, stay here, and let me do this..." It is great for a quicky because It cuts doen the time it take to orgasm. I know what works, after almost 9 years he does too.

The biggest thing for me is to feel sexy and relax. If you have your gear, take a bubble bath, do your make up, pop a cork, and spend some time figuring it out. If you have a man (or partner my bad) willing to just play until you get it (play being the key word, no pressure) all the more fun!

My first orgasm happened on my own, it took me a while before I could manage to let go enough with a partner. It probably didn't help that it was with boys my own age or younger, definitely the blind leading the blind!
Like the others have said, it's definitely worth spending time on your own just exploring and finding out for yourself what feels good. As for what an orgasm feels like, well you'll know when you have one!

If you really don't feel like you're getting anywhere on your own or with toys, it might be worth seeing a doctor - I don't know if you're on any meds at the moment but that might be making a difference.