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I need some advice

Charity6262
Charity6262
I have been having sex for many years, and in all this time I have never had an orgasm. I know that 10% of weman never orgasm but I really don't want to be in that catagory. Does anyone have advice or tips on what I can do to fix this issue?
Charity6262
Charity6262
Meds can make a difference? God then I am screwed. I take so many meds it is unreal.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your doctors will probably know more about it so talk to them - if they know it's causing a problem then they might be able to try changing some of them to see if that helps.

It might be a bit of a trial-and-error process until they figure out which particular med (or combination of them) is causing the problem, but good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have to say that i think pain can be a distraction. My orgasms were retardedly lame and somewhat painful until i started treatment for the pain. I think especially for women that an orgasm would be hard to achieve with pain or distractions. I would suggest that you try and lose yourself in the moment. in the past you mentioned you are a "fuck and run" type of gal and i think that could create an issue with the quality of the orgasm in general but thats from my own experience. I know for me that when i really feel comfortable with the person (normally after the first go around) that i tend to be more "lost in the moment" and more able to just let things loose.
Charity6262
Charity6262
Well if it is a medication issue I will just have to deal with not having orgasms cause most of my meds are for mental disorders and for the first time ever they are working. I would rather not have orgasms than not feel normal.