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I am confused

Everlasting.Love.
Everlasting.Love.

I not sure how to say this...


I lost my virginity last year.. Ever since I got addicted. It's kind of funny I don't get turned on by male or female I get them on by voices.. I don't like male or female sexually but I don't want it. But I can stop myself from it. Sex is like a drug. It's like a hunger that can't be fulfilled.. I don't understand it.. Then again maybe I was always like this cuz when I was young I was raped in molested at the time I didn't know it was wrong but I let him do it over and over again. I didn't like it but I didn't dislike it. It was addicting. 


I don't know what exactly to do.. Can anyone relate or give advise??

Barry
Barry
It looks like you need professional advice someone who can go through your problems with you and who has experience to relate them to.
Yelenaellyova
Yelenaellyova
It seems that your trauma memories have patterned you, and made you very vulnerable. Erotic experience is in essence a drug, in the sense that it floods the brain with dopamine, an intensely pleasurable feeling. Specialist counselling, help with knowing what consent actually is, and finding a very strong ethical framework, such as Buddhism to help you sort out your mental turbulence, would possibly be useful. Going on Buddhist retreats could be useful. Buddhism trains the mind. It is not easy, but does help in time to re-pattern the brain. But feminist specialist counselling is essential too.
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