Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Hi all!
I am having issues with my husband, he suffers from impotence and has to use viagra daily, we like to have sex every morning and sometimes during the day. ( we both work from home!)
anyway my issue is with me really, its hard to explain, when we are making love he loses his erection when he enters me after a few minutes. This is not only frustrating but also makes me feel that I dont feel good to him. Im struggling with not feeling rejected. It puts me off getting to my orgasm to be hnest, Im so busy thinking about his deflating willy I cant just enjoy myself!
ALso the other issue is his technique...now I have discussed this with my girlfriends and we agree that one of the ways to reach orgasm is to stimulate and be touching the clitoris...right, no debate there. I am used to my other lovers grinding his pubic bone into my clitoris to make me cum. Now this seems to follow with all my past lovers....is that right guys/girls?!
My current lover says its an issue with me and he has never had problems making women cum. Im pretty sure his technique is way off as he hardly gets near my clitoris during intercourse!! let alone get to the bump n grind bit!!! Ive already had to beg for foreplay before intercourse, he used to just shove himself into me! So Im super frustrated with him. ( apart from being cross that he feels its my problem!) His body just doesnt get near enough to mine in any position, feels like hes like holding back from me. No matter how hard I try and bump n grind on him he doesnt seem to get it!
Now I know egos are fragile here - how can I correct his technique?!! without freaking him out obviously the deflating willy doesnt help either!!!
aaaargh!!!!
I am having issues with my husband, he suffers from impotence and has to use viagra daily, we like to have sex every morning and sometimes during the day. ( we both work from home!)
anyway my issue is with me really, its hard to explain, when we are making love he loses his erection when he enters me after a few minutes. This is not only frustrating but also makes me feel that I dont feel good to him. Im struggling with not feeling rejected. It puts me off getting to my orgasm to be hnest, Im so busy thinking about his deflating willy I cant just enjoy myself!
ALso the other issue is his technique...now I have discussed this with my girlfriends and we agree that one of the ways to reach orgasm is to stimulate and be touching the clitoris...right, no debate there. I am used to my other lovers grinding his pubic bone into my clitoris to make me cum. Now this seems to follow with all my past lovers....is that right guys/girls?!
My current lover says its an issue with me and he has never had problems making women cum. Im pretty sure his technique is way off as he hardly gets near my clitoris during intercourse!! let alone get to the bump n grind bit!!! Ive already had to beg for foreplay before intercourse, he used to just shove himself into me! So Im super frustrated with him. ( apart from being cross that he feels its my problem!) His body just doesnt get near enough to mine in any position, feels like hes like holding back from me. No matter how hard I try and bump n grind on him he doesnt seem to get it!
Now I know egos are fragile here - how can I correct his technique?!! without freaking him out obviously the deflating willy doesnt help either!!!
aaaargh!!!!
I asked him the other day about the jumping off me during sex, just wrenching himself out of me issue.... he said he didnt think, he just panicked ( two times hes done that now) and wasnt thinking that it might hurt me. So I said - but I am all you should have been thinking about at that point! He just shrugged and looked at me baffled. He did say sorry and he didnt mean to hurt me.
I am beginning to wonder if there is a bigger issue here, as his last wife sent him for an Aspergers test! There is a distinct lack of empathy and understanding of other peoples feelings in our relationship and day to day life.
siiiggghhhhh!
(And I did order that tantric sex book!)
I had my own example when i went out of commission (yes i went semi hard) for some time, and i was devastated what happened to me and i had no answer. I was clue less of the source. It was all do to illness it is all fine now, but sure got some bad memories, cost me my marriage. I got dumped. Walk your path carefully..Work with him , understanding goes a long way.