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wow! charity , that was rotten of him, I hope you're not living together anymore

Not after he told me he was going to kill me if he ever saw me again.

wow! good thing it was the last time, it's hard living with an abuser, and people don't understand what it's like unless they been there, how long ago did you seperate ?
my great wife I have no had a court ordered divorce and seperation, because he beat her so bad, my x wife was abusive to her kids n me, terrible way
to live or should I say try to live

oops I meant my great wife I have now

Charity I really appologize. I didn't pick up that this was an abusive situation and I feel terrible. Really sorry. With more info I realised. What I can say now is that your life and relationships can only get better from that. I think you will make a new man very very happy, as long as he treats you with the respect you deserve.

I acctually left him in June of this year and I am now in hideing just so he can't find me. I hate him so much, but even after everything that has happened and everything he did to me I still love him and care for him and my step daughter (my stepdaughter more) and I hope that now that I am gone that he doesn't start hitting her. If he started going after her I would step inbetween the two of them and I would take the hit (usually more than one) so she wouldn't have to. Anyway ...

He's an asshole and if he does start to hit you stepdaughter....have his ass thrown in jail.

That guy deserves to be in jail. What a dick. No one should ever have to go though that kind of abuse.

He is the exact kind of guy that I'm always in court about. (m-f'er)
I would LOVE to have him for a case... I would make sure that poor child was never touched by him again.

Are Social Services aware of this? (or Child Protective Services?) If you have had to step in between them in the past, then you can be sure that he is doing the same, or worse, now that you are no longer there to protect her.
If they have not been notified, then PLEASE do so immediately. They will conduct a full scale investigation to make sure that she is alright.

have you joined the Physical & Emotional Abuse Board? There are a lot of good ppl there that have been through the same things that you are going through, and they can help you through this.

CPS was contacted and they contacted me and when I told them everything they told me that I am a bad parent for not comeing forward sooner. I told them when I was there she was taken care of, I always fixed her meals, gave her baths, got her up and ready and to school on time (before he pulled her out). When I was there I took care of her and made sure she was ok, and now that I am not I don't know what is going on and it kills me to think of what might be. They said that they would look into it and told me that I need to take parenting classes to become a better parent. I hope that they do take her from him and put her in my care because even if he isn't hitting her doctors say that he won't make it to the end of the year. He has soom pretty bad health issues.

Well last night I was reading about codependency as I think my wife is dependent on me - she has no 2nd income, it's a long story. I've been with her 11 years.

I started to think codependency looked like b.s. But when I read your 36 hour duty, it seems to me you might be the poster child for codependency? There is a community for that here @ dailystrength so check it out.

Also I think you might want to join the community for abuse relationships or whatever it is?

Just make sure you find a *sensitive* man next time? Some women aren't attracted to sensitive men because their fathers weren't sensitive. But I think to be happy in a relationship, it has to be give-give not give-take.

I think you actually need to learn how to please yourself. It is pretty much a given that a man will orgasm, but learning what turns you on is most important, because for a man, knowing he pleased his partner is what pleases him the most. Have good communication with whatever sexual partner you have, and let him know your likes, and dislikes, and guide him along.

Find a man that truly cares for you, and loves you for you. You should never have to give anyone oral sex for as long as you did, that is honestly torture, you would be in so much pain.