I have done this. Lets call it sexual healing. :o)

Nope, if it works, it's not dtysfunctional.

I use EXERCISE as an antidepressant. The offset of exercise, is, of course, increased libido.

Sex, at least in the form of masturbation, works great, for me, as an antidepressant...right up until the orgasm! Then, after the orgasm, I feel so empty and depleted, I'm more depressed than before I became sexually stimulated.

But maybe a partner would "help" with that!

I think I can identify with everyone of these in some way shape or form. I think where the guilt comes from is in the association of bad news with feeling good. Maybe I think I am suppose to feel bad when I hear bad news maybe? I dunno.

I've used sex to feel better when I'm sad. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to feel better, and help the man I love feel better, when I'm hurting, as long as it doesn't become a way of avoiding dealing with whatever's going on.

I think it's part of being human. Sadness, real sadness, often means the death of a loved one. The tribe is smaller, and there's one way we can correct that problem.

When i'm depressed I need lots of sex and orgasm's.

No, it is not dysfunctional to use sex as a way to relive emotional stress. When you orgasm, your brain releases neurohormones, such as oxytocin and prolactin, our feel good hormones. So it makes us feel better, for a brief while.

yes i have...its the release..sometimes i will just break down and weep during orgasm. plus the sexual activity is like a good workout..leaves me feeling like ahhhhhh. :)

seems pretty normal to me. I think everybody does this to some extent.

Beats a whole lot of the alturnatives....

After reading all of these I had to go rub one off just to get the good feeling. This time I didn't feel gulty about it although it would have been much better to have a female partner to share it with. :(

Thats life, I guess.

Peace!

"Sadness, real sadness, often means the death of a loved one. The tribe is smaller, and there's one way we can correct that problem."

Yes, to breed! Which, of course, is one result of sex. You got me thinking about sex's role in grief, deb! Is it our unconscious desire to create another human to replace the one who passed into the netherworld?

Or is it just because we feel like shit, positively hollowed out, when we're grieving after someone we love has passed on, and reaching for the nearest partner intimately is the nearest, closest way to fill the big, gaping hole in our hearts?

I've often wondered this same thing myself. I completely understand the need after recieving bad news or having a bad day. Sex is just usually so soothing physically that there's really not much mystery there but as far as the guilt, yes,i wish i could eliminate that part of it also. There are times that i think "i didn't deserve that", " i should be doing this or that,not just thinking about myself and my needs". Then I'll deny myself for awhile until i feel worthy again. It's not right but it happens.

Koolman, interesting perception, maybe it was built into our brains by our designer, feelings of loss = making a baby and feeling good or replacing a bad memory with a better one. I dunno.

When a family member dies, I'll go with replacing a bad memory with a good one or just simply to release the tension and make me feel better.

Breeding because the tribe is smaller when someone in the family dies.......I know that's the last thing on my mind when I've had sex and someone died, in fact it never came to mind. lol I had 2 kids, that's what I wanted, that's what I had and made sure to take care of it so no more breeding would ever take place with me. lol