Practice faking some self confidence until you make it. Don't let those pesky little thoughts get to you. Relax and do what feels right. You can try with either your feet or knees on the bed. I find that it is easier to switch between the two depending on how you like being penetrated. Start out squatting over him, then move to your knees. Don't be afraid to switch up the hip movements a little too. Don't just go up and down, rotate your hips, etc. If it will make you feel more comfortable, wear a sexy nightshirt the first couple times, then you hopefuly won't have those thoughts of OMG my boobs a jiggling way too much, or he can see my belly fat. Relax and have fun with it. Good luck, cause girl on top is one of the quickest ways to reach an O for me!!!

Honey he would not be with you if he did not find you sexy and attractive! Try to keep that in mind as far as confidence goes.

Usually you would be on your knees and not on your feet. Have fun and good luck.

maybe a little porn would be instructive?

I enjoy being on top and there are many different ways to try it. If facing him is uncomfortable for you try turning around so your not face to face......on your knees. If you are flexible, lean back into him or lean forward toward his feet. It gives boh of you different levels of penetration. Start with the lights off if you want until you find the best way that feels right for you. Experimenting together is half the fun. I am sure he doesn't worry about his belly, we wants you both to enjoy yourselves. Good luck!!

Thank you all for your opinion's and posts! - I've tried the lingerie and being ontop but i felt dumb he was just checking me out the entire time and I felt stupid. i told him I haven't been ontop before and he said we would work on it together which made me feel more comfortable. I'm going to go ahead and wear a sexy nightshirt I wore one before and I'll wear it again.. We live 2 1/2 hr's away and so I only see him on certain weekends, This upcoming weekend I'm heading down there to see him and I will try all of your tips! - Thank you all!!

The whole issue is one easily solved, especially if he wants to work with you on it.

Being on top doesn't mean you put your whole weight behind you, so full figured or not, it for the most part doesn't matter. Get on in a comfortable position for you and him. Move around a little and see what you both like, ideas from porn help, but remember some of porn is just for show and sucks to do in real life.
Then let your emotions and nerves guide you to what your enjoying.

The self confidence thing is simple. He doesn't care that you are full figured. If he did he would not be with you and he would not be working with you to get you on top.

People often forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and once you fall in love with a person, any imperfection big or small is easily forgotten. So while you sit and worry about looking larger, he is sitting there looking at his beautiful partner who is on top of him ready to rock his world.

I would rather be with a full figured woman with confidence and intelligence than some skinny model who is dumb as a post.

Best of luck to you.

Of course he is checking you out if you are on top. That is one of the pluses of this position, especially if you are facing him. My wife is full figured and full busted, and I love seeing, feeling her beautiful busts and face as she mounts me. Sometimes I place a pillow under my but for additional access. She straddles, facing me on her knees. Another advantage is she can place me and manipulate me to do the most good. And, forget the nightshirt idea, Go naked with a candle lit nearby to give you and your man a real thrill.

Try wearin a sexy piece of clothing that you feel comfortable in..relax set the mood..be confident and take control men love that...maybe blindfold him so u feel more comfortable and he'll get more excited..have him lay on his back maybe wedge sum pillows under his butt/ lower back and hop on..it may be easier to be on ur kneed while being on top..just bounce up and down rotate ur hips do what feels good for you I'm sure he'll love it! Another good on top position is sit him in a sturdy chair..sit on him so ur backside is facing him in bounce up an down on him in a sitting position you can use the wall or a table for support..

You said he wants to work throught this with you so sounds like you have a really good man sweetie..I too am a big girl and I also avoid being on top..i do it occasionally when asked.But its nothing i woul do on my own..Relax and work on it together..Good luck!!And have fun.

Practice makes perfect. Just keep tryin things out til you find out what works best for you. Here's to many new things to cum in 2010!

my F and i had the exact same problem at the beginning, but iver time it has gotten better. She felt the same way you did, feeling fatter and feeling dumb. i think you just need to convince yourself that your boyfriend finds you very attractive. our situation was slightly different because i'm a stick figure, literally a wet pair of shoes weigh more than i do. so any one looks big next to me. I find nothing more attractive then her putting on lingerie and stuff like that. i love her no matter what size she is.... hope that helps

There are different variations of being on top too. Maybe a book or something on the internet could show you some instructional positions.

Just relax and have fun with it!

Everyone's right...your man thinks you're sexy and the view of you being on top is exactly what he wants, he wants to see, wants to check you out, it turns him on. I had a lover who was so verbally encouraging I felt like I could do anything with him, if your man were to tell you how sexy he thought you looked, how good you felt, etc., maybe that would help you feel more comfortable and get your confidence up. I also agree with the naked in candlelight...he will love it and hopefully you will feel more confident and comfortable :)

omg..I LOVE being on top! I can for sure relate to how you feel about it..I'm no skinny minny myself! but I gotta say, once your allow yourself to take control and hop on up...you may just find that you LOOOOVE IT!

It is a completely diff experience being able to control the cock..at least for me, I know that I greatly enjoy being on top and making him cum..mmmm..mmm...mmmmm.....