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In a completely normal and conversational tone of voice she can say things like, "Do you own a butt plug?" [yes, why?] "I thought if you had a vibrating one you could shove it up your ass while I flog you."
But later the same day I got out the last of the pint of ice cream we had been sharing direct from the carton, but there was only one clean spoon in the drawer. I said, "I guess since I've had my tongue in your vagina sharing a spoon isn't a big deal." and she got embarrassed and looked at the floor!
I totally don't get why the one subject is fine and the other not.
But later the same day I got out the last of the pint of ice cream we had been sharing direct from the carton, but there was only one clean spoon in the drawer. I said, "I guess since I've had my tongue in your vagina sharing a spoon isn't a big deal." and she got embarrassed and looked at the floor!
I totally don't get why the one subject is fine and the other not.
did you ask her what the big deal would be?
I agree with asking her. :)
I have been in situations like that too where I've made logical connections like that. Plus I'm also pretty good at putting my foot in my mouth from time to time : ). Often I need to learn when to shut up and simply listen LOL.
Your thought process makes sense to me though-
...we've talked about naughty stuff before, therefore it should be OK now to joke about it a bit too ...
Perhaps her response might have to do more with her emotional state at the time? Maybe she was thinking about something entirely different? Could really be any number of things. You can't read minds, and she shouldn't expect you too either.
Try to be really supportive in talking/listening, and hopefully she will open up and help you to understand what she's feeling or going through.
Best of luck with it!
However, I wouldn't be one to ask to stick a butt plug up someone's ass, either!
I think there is a time and place for everything. Maybe I'm just too demure.
With that said, I would actually be embarassed also. I am in the same boat with des. I can TEXT some really dirty and sometimes even raunchy stuff thru email or text but I can't do it in person. I feel stupid. There is probably nothing to worry about but I would just ask her if it bothers her.
THAT made me laugh hard too... that was funny