Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.


Good Luck!
No doubt, female sex drive is way more hormonal and complex than male. In a male, decreased sex drive seems to be the result of decreased blood circulation. While the hardening of the clit is sure to need blood racing to it, there are, undoubtedly, so many other hormonal factors involved in the deeper regions of the vagina and just overall metabolic and hormonal factors involved throughout the whole body to address, that affect serotonin levels in the brain and other factors.
The ladies here will be more help. Until then, Indeed, please, consult your physician.
What is the best cure bobinmaine???
First of all, who is complaining, you or a partner. Women in their 50's probably average no more than one sexual activity a week. I always needed to guess at what normal was. What ever and how often or how long is up to you, not what someone else thinks it should be.
Secondly, there are a lot of causes of low libido. Don't discount simple bordom. It could be a number of things other than menopause. For instance: depression, anit depressents. Worries about getting old. Or very often, especially in today's world, it could be worries about money. It might be worries about health, or the health of good friends or relatives.
Maybe you just need more foreplay to become sexually aroused. Foreplay frequently might include a good dinner and maybe a movie, play or concert. Some people find getting away to a nice motel or hotel for a weekend can do wonders, especially if a hot tub is involved.
AARP has run a lot of very well done surveys about sexuality after 45. One can go to their website and search under sexual surveys. You might find a clue there.
A lot of people not only don't know exactly what turns a partner on, they don't know exactly what turns them on. It might help to find out with a little self help or toy.
If dryness is a problem, there are a variety of lubricants available at many drug stores..at least here in the states.
Also, the suggestion to see a doctor is good, or a sex therapist, or talk it over with a partner.
Finally, those who were not very interested in sex while in their 20s or 30's are not going to be interested in their 50's or 60's either.
Remember, libido was created by God or nature or whatever to assure humankind had sex to procreate. When one is done procreating, nature reduces the desire somewhat. However, knowing no pregnancy will result is a true turn on for many middle aged and much older women.