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excited but not erect

deleted_user
deleted_user
i get very excited and use cialis -- but then the smallest bad thought grows in my head and i lose my erection which makes it worse the next time. How do i keep these these thoughts out of my head?
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you find that out, let the rest of the world know!

The only way to really get past the bad thoughts thing is not to have them in the first place! To be so consumed with what you're doing that you can't think of anything else. Which isn't easy when you're thinking "don't think bad thoughts"...because then you will.

I don't know what to tellyou, except maybe practice a few times without the cialis- perhaps look online for the type of porn that really sends you over the edge and see if you can watch the filmclip all the way through, without thinking bad thoughts. Train yourself.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Try switching to viagra. Even though it only lasts about 8 hours, the feeling is more intense and you are less likely to lose your erection. I have been on all three, Viagra, levitra, and cialis and I will only take the viagra at this point in time. It allows me to stay hard, even if a few bad thoughts begin to creep in my head. Just make sure you have a naked woman in front of you or some good porn though.

Good Luck!
koolman
koolman
Um...try and think good thoughts-?

What sort of bad thoughts are we talking about here...erectile side-effects? An erection lasting longer than 4 hours? Heart attack or stroke? Or just negative feelings about one's self or the one one lusts after?
abyssimal1
abyssimal1
Lose yourself in the moment, and enjoy what you are experiencing at the time. Sex should be a time when all other cares melt away and give way to enjoying what you are sharing with your partner.

Lord knows there is plenty of time for care and worry after.
Darkman
Darkman
Yes, I had problem with the erection too. My friends advised me to use Viagra, But it didn't help. After some time I decided to use it again and bought tablets on thepillsmarket.com. Viagra from this site really helped me)
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